sloppy seconds

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Registered: 03-27-2007
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:44pm
Is it fair to be angry with a friend for stealing a ex bf? I just broke up with a guy about three weeks ago. I am over him but today I was told that over break, he hooked up with another friend. This girl has denied to my face that she has feelings for him. I feel that she set it all up so that she could hurt me. Am I overreacting? I have to see him and her at a formal dinner where I am going stag and he is going to bring her. What should I do or say to them?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 12:59am
It's an unspoken rule that you don't mess around with a girlfriends ex. Keep your chin up and try not to let it get to you. Say hello to them so they can't accuse you of being bitter, then get on with your evening and flirt like you've never flirted before in your life ; )
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Registered: 03-27-2007
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 1:01am
thanks for the advice
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In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 1:12am
You're welcome.
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Registered: 11-21-2006
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 2:29am
I'm sorry to hear about your ex-bf and your friend. I had a friend do that to me once and I was really upset about it. I felt betrayed and it was hard to forgive her and him! I held a grudge for a while which was somewhat hard on my psyche. Once I forgave him and her that anger dissipated and I felt some much better! My advice would be to not hold grudges and don't let it get you down.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 8:53am
That's lousy.
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Registered: 03-27-2007
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 8:57am
We only dated for a month. It does sound pathetic that I am offended at her coming on to him. I have to let it go. If she wants him, she can have him.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 9:10am

Okay well she didn't exactly STEAL him if you had broken up with him right? Stealing is a bit of a stretch. LOL

Did you break up with him??? Maybe she figured if you had broken up with him you wouldn't care because you didn't like him anymore.

I am of the school you don't date people that your friends date or at least check with them first but maybe she figured you broke up with him so she maybe figured he was fair game, I agree with the other poster, that said I wouldn't hold a grudge, you didn't date him that long, I'd let it go.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 03-27-2007
In reply to: eswen5
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 10:07am
I have let it go. Yesterday, I was not happy to hear the news. Today, I am over him.
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Registered: 04-13-2006
In reply to: eswen5
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 3:39am

I hear a lot of stories about girls who date one of their friends ex's. I dont hear about guys doing this really. I wonder why that is? Anyone have any insight into this?

Also when I had gfs in the past....their friends would flirt with me.....guys never do that either.

Women? any thoughts on this?

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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: eswen5
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 10:29am
Really? I see it more often with men dating friends exes than women. I guess it depends on the area and the friends.

Smile,

Deirdre

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