Slow and steady wins, right??

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Slow and steady wins, right??
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Sat, 11-17-2012 - 1:50pm

I've always said that I like to get to know someone first before I even have a real date with them.  I like meeting someone, slowly developing a sort of "friendship", and then moving into dating or whatever.  But I'm getting impatient with this guy!

So I have his number.  I texted him.  He responded, but I'm not sure he knew it was me so he probably doesn't know he has my number, or didn't save it.  A couple of weeks ago, he sent me a friend request on FB.  My girlfriend (the one who got his number first) is also friends with him now.  I'm not sure if she sent him one, then he sent me one, or he sent one to both of us.  Anyway...not a big deal because I don't consider FB a dating place, but at least he maybe sees me as someone he'd like to keep in touch with. 

In the meantime, there have been many glances, prolonged eye contact, smiles, etc. exchanged during trivia.  He's been telling me goodbye when he leaves, with a little pat on the shoulder.  This Thursday, he came over to our table and somehow got on the topic of how he wants kids.  (Can we say uterus throbbing???  I might have just taken him right there if I'd had a stronger drink!) 

Ugh.  I feel like there's progress...we're getting to know each other, talking more, etc....but it's soooo sloooow.  Which I guess is what I like.  But in the meantime, I've still got those uterus throbs!  I've thought about just texting him a random (unnecessary) question one night about something, but I haven't a clue what I'd say.   I need to talk to him without my friends around, and that's not going to happen at trivia.  My friends are always around! 

In the meantime, I wait.  And try to ignore the fact that his friends seem like crude jerks!

 

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Registered: 01-02-2012
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 3:06pm

Music, he was really easy talking to earlier this year. Had two very nice conversations alone with him then (months between) and that was not a problem at all for either of us. This summer he was the one who talked the most and in a humorous and interesting manner actually, I really enjoyed that. But now my mind just went blank and I could not for the life of me find anything to say. It had been a few months since I saw him this close as well, maybe I was stunned, LOL. Part of me tells me that he meets so many people (including other girls) in his freetime playing in all those bands, and why should he be bothered getting to know little mousy me? But I try to shut out that voice in my head and smile as sweetly as I can while saying hi. Smile

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 9:21pm
Ruby, I have the same voice. When I first met this guy a couple of months ago, he had several women who seemed to be hanging on him. I haven't seen that lately, though. I think for me it's the fact that someone else is always around that makes it hard for me to just have a conversation. Between my friend butting in and always trying to control the situation and his friends who seem to think they are better than everyone else, it's tough. I just need to keep trying to find opportunities to get him alone and let him know I'm interested. The same goes for you, it seems.

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