Slugworth

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Slugworth
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 10:35pm
If you haven't seen Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory lately, Slugworth is the guy who secretly approaches every golden ticket winner and whispers something in his or her ear. You find out near the end that this man asked each winner to get him an Everlasting Gobstopper, and is really working for Mr. Wonka and is just posing as a spy.

Sometimes, I feel like I have a Slugworth following me around, whispering in the ear of every guy I meet, telling him some awful secret about me to chase him off. I pretty much expect it at this point.

I know it's only Wednesday, but not hearing from the guy I met last week is irritating me. I don't know why, but I really thought this one was different. He seemed genuinely interested. He responded to me when I texted him first, but that's it. I'm just going to keep telling myself that it's not all about me. His son started back to school today and he'd been gone for a couple of weeks. Still...I really wanna catch my Slugworth!


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Registered: 06-03-2009
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:59am
Well why don't you call tomorrow and see how he's doing? If after a bit of small talk he seems glad to hear from you then you could inquire about his weekend and hope he'll take the hint =)
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In reply to: shywon
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 8:14am

I feel like I've made all the contact, although it hasn't been much.  I would rather call at this point, but I have six (SIX!) people coming to my house tonight (and today is my first day back to school) and one of them is my mother.  Even if I went outside and talked on the porch, my mom would either follow me out there or give me the shakedown on who I was talking to.  I keep thinking- he has a kid, and I don't want to interrupt him if he's spending time with his son.  I will contact him, though, if I don't hear from him.  I'm really tired of men just disappearing like this, and not giving me a chance.  He could just be doing that stupid three day rule thing that men do.  Who knows.

 

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In reply to: shywon
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:22am

I hear the not calling thing is an epidemic as of late.  I wouldn't know, personally, but we do see quite a lot of posts on here about ghosters or those who never follow through. 

I still don't think it's a hopeless situation.  I just think one will have to weed through several chocolate bars before locating the golden ticket ;]

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Registered: 06-06-2003
In reply to: camult
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:48am

Oh, I think I would give him some time and see how things fall.  If he has a son there could very possibly be some other issues that have come up.  There's absolutely nothing wrong with you.  You've had alot of guys interested in you, but they weren't what you were seeking.  Finally, one comes along that you want to dial your number.  The joy of the game.

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 9:16pm
Well since I don't consider texting to be worth much and if that is all you've done I'd say you haven't made any contact =P Ok so tonight is out since you have guests, but you could call Sat or Sun afternoon just to say hi and see how his sons first week at school went. An afternoon call is very low pressure and if you get voice mail you actually have to leave a msg so he can call you back. No more texting! Stop throwing in the towel already, there is still plenty of time for things to change for the better.
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In reply to: shywon
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:43am
I will have family here until next Tuesday! Call me old fashioned, but I really think he should be calling me!
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In reply to: shywon
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 7:40am
Shy, I agree with you. He most likely knows you're interested since you made the first contact so I think if he's interested he'll call. Let him come to you this time!
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In reply to: shywon
Sat, 08-18-2012 - 9:19pm
I did send a text Thursday night just asking how he's been. I got nothing back. Honestly, I'm usually a pretty good judge of character and know when a guy really never intends on seeing me again. I didn't get that vibe. I'm thinking either someone we both know (and there are a couple of possibilities) told him something bad about me or something truly happened to keep him from contacting me. Either way, there's nothing developing and I lose interest fast when that happens.

My FWB was out last night and we ran into each other. I left without saying goodbye, which I never do. I got a text at 2am, asking if I left w/ no goodbye, and something to the effect of me being lucky I had company because...well, I think he was planning something a little...rougher. Not my cup of tea. I didn't respond. It just irks me that he can up and leave like he does.
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In reply to: hal_9000
Mon, 08-20-2012 - 9:07am

Hi Shy,

My opinion is that he isn’t that keen. If I met a woman I liked and we had texted a few times then the 3 day rule goes out the window...The 3 day rule only applies when I am considering making contact for the very first time. Also, even if something important came up I would make an effort to keep in touch so she doesn’t think I am playing games.

Since you think you are a good judge about a guy’s interest level, the only other possibility is the one you’ve considered and that he has found out something that has made him lose interest. They only thing I’ve read from you that would make me lose interest is a FWB. Is there anyway he could have found out about that?