sly friend?

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sly friend?
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Mon, 09-10-2012 - 1:57pm

I have a friend who is also on the free dating website.

This morning she called me to say she met a guy for coffee yesterday.

This guy happens to be the guy who disappears and then appears again after about 2-3 weeks who I mentioned in my previous posts.

Last weekend, he callled and asked if I wanted to go biking this past weekend. I did not hear from him at all this past weekend.

I am not into this guy so I  don't care.

The thing that bothers me is my friend. While I share all stories and details of my dating life,  my friend maintains that she is not talking to any guy, there is no potential and that she got no emails. Then this morning she said she was on a date yesterday.

I find this to be very sly. I find this withholding of information to be hurtful. All this time, I thought she needs help and was asking my single guy friends to take a look at her profile and meet her if interested.

A guy friend suggested that I don't share any info with her, but then I won't have friends to share the ups and downs.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 6:04pm

I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, too.  I've learned that not everyone is the same.    

"This morning she called me to say she met a guy for coffee yesterday.  This guy happens to be the guy who disappears and then appears again after about 2-3 weeks who I mentioned in my previous posts."  How can you be sure?

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 6:37pm
Honestly, I don't share details of my dating life with many people at all. I dated a guy for six months once and most people didn't know about him. Too many people want to "help" when all they're really doing is being judgemental, so I don't share.

There's a reason your friend isn't telling you things. I suggest finding out why before you get upset with her.
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Tue, 09-11-2012 - 8:02am
Apparently he emailed his vacations photos to me and her as well. So we know it is the same guy.
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In reply to: cfk_3
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 11:15am

 I'm not sure I am understanding you correctly.  What I think you're "saying" is that she went on on a date with this [same] guy.  What I'm asking is, how do you know this because unless she told you, you can't be 100% sure.  It would be a shame if you are mistaken, and are making calls behind the scenes meanwhile, your friend is completely oblivious.  Do you know what I mean?  Just sayin' because I've gotten myself into trouble from making assumptions and not having the facts.  Maybe you do have the facts, and I'm misunderstanding . . . just be careful.  LOL!  That's all I'm trying to convey. 

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Tue, 09-11-2012 - 12:01pm

It is the same guy. I am not upset about the guy since I am not interested.

I am just upset with the fact when we whine about sinlge life, she says she got no emails from any guys and is not talking to any guy. She is upset and frustrated and don't know where to find a guy.

 

 

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Tue, 09-11-2012 - 2:09pm

I hear you.  That is odd.