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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:33pm

After being dumped 2 months ago (wow, time flies when you're having fun (or pretending to, haha), I have thrown myself back into the dating world, and you ladies know how fun (or not fun) that is! Of course, it was all online as I never seem to meet people when I'm out and about with friends (or even myself, although I do have my eye on my not-so-new neighbor that has lived here for 2 years now, hehe) and have recently decided that I've had enough, once again.

There was the guy, M, who I've seen on match for a few years, we went out 3 times and I just wasn't feeling any attraction to him, we had great conversation, but there was just something missing. I was honest with him and told him that I'd like to remain friends, and that I did enjoy his company, but I didn't feel those warm fuzzies, he said he wasn't totally surprised and sure, we could be friends, yet we haven't spoken since, but he did accept my friend request on myspace, but on there he just sounds SO bitter now, and that is unattractive!

Another guy, J, seems nice, we went out for lunch one afternoon, and I had to pay for my own lunch! It was only $7, but still, I guess I'm a little old fashioned and would think that on the first date, well, the guy would be chivalrious enough to pay, but whatever....he then asked me if I would like to do it again sometime, and I said yes, figuring I wouldn't hear from him, but I did. He e-mailed me a few days later to make plans but I was busy and asked if we could do it another time and he replied with "sure, another time would work just fine" and that was that. I had pretty much written him off until he e-mailed about 2 weeks later apologizing for being MIA, had some family drama, and he didn't want to call in case I didn't want to talk to him because he had disappeared (okay, we went out once, but whatever) and asked if I was still interested in going out sometime. I wrote back and was again, completely honest, and told him that I'd like to go out, but just as friends as I am taking time off from dating, and it seems as though too much pressure is put on two people to decide right away if they like each other or not, etc., so that's where I was. He felt the same way, so we might hang out this weekend. This guy seems okay, has a sense of humor, is nice (although I'm still turned off that I had to pay for my lunch, haha) but well, is anyone else in this position? Just trying to not force anything and see what happens naturally?

Sorry for the super long post!!!

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In reply to: rebainmi
Wed, 05-24-2006 - 11:38pm

I've tried that before, but usually when I wanna kiss someone, I wanna kiss him and I can't seem to wait.

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In reply to: rebainmi
Sat, 05-27-2006 - 11:46pm

I know what you mean about the kissing thing...to me, kissing is very intimate (almost as intimate as sex, I know, some people think I'm strange for that!) so when I kiss someone, I want to enjoy it, and the last guy I went on a few dates with that I kissed, it was more like a quick peck and then nothing, and that was enough to make me not want more, haha!

I'm going into it more as having a new friend...and what's funny is that I went out to dinner and a comedy show tonight with my friend and her husband and their nephew and they paid for everything for me! I said "thanks! you guys are better than the actual dates I have!" ;)

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