So the ex messaged me......

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Registered: 12-05-2005
So the ex messaged me......
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Sat, 02-25-2006 - 1:33pm

So I wake up this morning to a blinking IM screen on my desktop. I stare at it a bit because, well, its from my ex and I have no clue what it is. A little bit scared really. I opened it and it says "I'm sorry for everything. I'm sorry for all the pain I've caused". Now this was sent at about 2am...after 8 months of neither of us saying two words to each other (quite the feat since we work in the same building). I'm not sure what to think of it? Drunk guilt maybe?

For those of you that don't know/remember we were togehter for a year and a half before he broke up with me claiming he wasn't happy, didn't know why, and that the only think he could think to change was to end it with me. He NEVER admits he's wrong, and never thinks of anyone else (his roomates incessant smoking of *everything* really drove me nuts as I'm mildly allergic..and his response to that was 'well he pays rent').

I'm taking the whole thing with an extremly miniscule grain of salt.I don't miss him, I don't miss us, I do not want him back...but its really thrown me for a loop. So I had a shower I'm getting all dolled up, and I'm going shopping. Thanks for listening all.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 3:42pm

Those random messages can throw you through a loop.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 7:01pm

Is your ex my ex??? ;)

My ex's MO (we broke up twice) was to contact me after eight months. I gave in and went back to him the first time, but learned my lesson by the second.

My sister had great advice, "it's ok to give someone a second chance, but not a third."

Those blasts from the past can really do a number on your heart. If those old feelings of pain come up, let yourself sit through them and deal with them. When my ex contacted me the second time, I had the same attitude as you -- I don't want him, I'm over it -- but it did open up some old wounds. So, be prepared for that. My best advice is to avoid contact. (I've never believed it possible to be friends with a long-term ex, and I'm impressed that some people can do that - I can't.)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-05-2005
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 8:14am

Thank you both. That's just what I needed to hear. I was out with my best guy friend last night and we had a really good time. We kissed, I felt all warm and fuzzy and happy...I wake up this morning in a good mood until I read my email. My ex sent me an apology I miss you I want you back email.

This is so not what I wanted to see today. I think my theme song for the day will be Kelly Clarksons Gone.

Oh this just sucks.