so hard to get out

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006
so hard to get out
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 1:33pm

The weather's not helping. I was thinking as a single person, a good way to get out of a rut is to just get out. However, when I have free time like this Sat morning, I'm not motivated to go out. I'm not motivated to even go to meetup events to make new friends. I find meetups a fast and easy way to get involved but what if you don't even feel like it?

I like to go get together with a close friend or two but I'm not even motivated to call or get out of the house. Easy companionship is what I'm looking for, not necessarily romance.



iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 2:15pm


Wow; Do I know how you feel..... I cant get motivated to do anything and I have the stupid mild depression of winter and a bunch of stuff going on I feel like crawling in a hole and never coming out.

You are right in that I dont even feel like doing meet ups or anything right now and totally feeling sorry for myself.. With no breaks in sight I am not doing my walking or sightseeing or shopping or anything and well I have alot of negative talk and things going on and the feeling sorry for myself lately.

I am so thinking of taking a trip to Fla. for a few weeks but then I have no one to go with and then the guilt of spending money when I know I need to get an apt. and shouldnt really be spending that kind of money... but I am so down and out with no breaks..

okay.. off soapbox


Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 12-29-2012 - 2:04pm
I don't think that's just a single person thing. How many married couples do you know who only leave the house when they have to? I know lots. I forced myself to go out last night. I wasn't feeling the greatest and I was tired, but I hadn't left my house all day and I knew staying home would make me depressed. Sometimes you've just gotta do it, even if you aren't totally into it. Kinda like exercise!