So, I did it

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Registered: 10-16-2006
So, I did it
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Wed, 02-26-2014 - 6:10pm

Joined eHarmony, that is.

I know.

I've been on a break for 5 months. Over the weekend, I thought a lot about my love life and how in the last five years, the only guys I've gone out with were from OLD. I did match.com off and on for 5 years. I also tried Plenty of Fish but didn't meet one guy from that. So, I thought, what do I really have to lose except $34.95 a month for six months? I thought there was a three-month option, but there isn't. At least, for my age. Perhaps they let younger people join for less.

Stay tuned. I'm sure I'll have some reall doozies to tell.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 02-26-2014 - 8:08pm

I hate to tell you this, but I got an offer from EH to join for $8.95/month--I guess once you join & then cancel, they will try anything to get you back.  Good luck with it.  

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Thu, 02-27-2014 - 7:33am

Well, that's a bummer. Wish I could have gotten the better rate. I read that if you start to fill out your questionnaire then wait a while, they'll email you a better offer. Oh well. Just one more thing. Well, if I meet someone it will have been worth the $210. I'm not sure if I can cancel after three months and get half back--I don't think you can.

I looked at two matches this morning--not feeling it for either one. This could be a very long six months.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 4:43pm

Maybe if you complain about how bad the matches are and threaten to cancel, they will give you a reduced fee or let you cancel early.  I hate to tell you but I thought EH was the worst, esp. for a paid site.  They sent me too many matches which did not meet my qualifications--too old or too far away.  For the 3 months I was on there, I actually emailed only one guy who wrote back and that was only for one day--I guess he was bored that day and I was a diversion.  Not really much different from the other sites.  The funny thing was that one of my suggested matches was a guy who I already knew--we went out a couple of times years ago before I married 2nd DH, have seen him since, but he definitely only wants a work connection and doesn't even want to be friends.  Maybe there is a better selection of guys in Florida.

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Thu, 02-27-2014 - 5:55pm

You'll have to keep us posted on how it goes for you.  I haven't had luck with POF, Match, OKcupid, or datehookup.  Would be nice to hear that there is at least one OLD site that is worth something.  Of what I see, other than the scammers, is a bunch of men looking for much younger ladies.  Seems like most of the men that contact me are at least 15 years older than me.  And people call me a cougar because of MB (who I've never even gone out with).  I don't ever hear anyone calling a man with a younger woman a lion or tiger or whatever!

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Thu, 02-27-2014 - 5:58pm

I don't hold out very high expectations from eH. It's just that it's a new venue and has a reputation for attracting people who are more serious about a relationship, but who knows? Honestly, I think a lot of it is luck. It could be that with you, there just didn't happen to be a guy online at that time that was suitable. The same thing could happen to me. And just because these first two didn't float my boat doesn't mean there won't be someone else. 

And I seriously doubt there is a better selection of men in Florida than in Boston.

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Fri, 02-28-2014 - 12:30pm

I don't do dating sites but I keep hearing this Christian mingle advertised on TV a lot lately. Wonder if there'd be a better class of men on there?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 3:54pm

Not necessarily.  My friend is a very religious Christian who wants to get married again so she tried Christian mingle.  She didn't seem to have any more success on that site.  She did meet one guy but he was long distance so she decided it wasn't for her.