So many choices, so little time

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Registered: 02-26-2011
So many choices, so little time
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 2:03am

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 2:30am
I'd like to know what planet that blogger lives on because every single person I know isn't surrounded by all these choices of acceptable partners. The problem is they're surrounded by jerks, losers, or people that are already coupled up.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 6:50am

+1

I'd also like to add that individual personalities make a huge difference in making choices. If you've studied the Myers-Briggs personality sorter, you'll know that Perceivers have a much harder time closing off options than Judgers.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 10:47am

I do think that having lots of choices is just as hard as not having any choices at all.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 11:23am

Wow!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 12:03pm

I do think that a lot of what she said makes sense.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 1:07pm
Music, I'm always amazed when people say they have thousands of profiles online to look through. The last time I checked here, there were 37 profiles on match that fit my criteria- 27-37 (or 28-38...I can't remember) no kids and nonsmoker. That's it: 37.

I think the key is realizing that we have the appearance of choices (if I expanded my search to 50 miles instead of 20, for example, I'd probably have 100-200 profiles), but they aren't true options for all of us. Yes, there are lots of men out there, but we wouldn't choose to date all of them and they wouldn't all choose to date us.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 2:26pm

That's the problem w/ living in a big city.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 2:38pm

That's the thing I don't get!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 4:58pm

That's a geography thing, Shy.

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Wed, 11-23-2011 - 6:40pm

Amen.

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