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|Wed, 07-17-2013 - 8:56am|
I went out for my birthday last night with a couple of women friends I used to work with. They are both married. We're really not tremendously close, but we did work together for years and still get together now that none of us are at that company anymore.
So the question I always dread came from one, "So what's new--anything new with your love life?"
Me: "Well, not really. I was dating a guy very sporatically for about four years, but that seems to be over. We weren't really connecting, just going on casual dates."
Her: "Yes, but at least you get to go out and just have fun."
Me: "Not really. It's fun for a while, but I long for a connection, and it just wasn't happening. It really isn't fun after a while when you don't have enough in common with someone."
Second Woman: "You're just too picky."
Me: "Be careful, those are fighting words for me."
I then proceeded to tell them the story of Toothpick Man who I met from online. I invited them both to come over sometime and I'd show them the choices on match.com and then they could tell me I was being too picky. But once again, the single woman is enteraining the married women with these zany, unbelievable and horrifying dating stories. To them it's funny. To me it's not. Oh, at first it was. But it's not funny anymore.
They mean well. But they don't get it, and I know that. People who have never done online dating think it's like a giant Sears catalog of interesting men who you can choose from--make friends (with no resentment) with the ones you don't click with, and go on "fun" dates.
They have no idea.