So there's this guy...

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Registered: 07-16-2001
So there's this guy...
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Fri, 04-26-2013 - 8:52pm
Sometimes I feel like posting or even speaking of a potential date will jinx it! But I'm going to do it anyway. So I met this guy probably 3-4 years ago. He used to go to the same karaoke place I did, then they shut that place down. We've spoken, and I always thought he was attractive, but I thought he was very young so I never really flirted or anything. I actually posted about him awhile back- I sent him a message on FB (were not friends there) telling him where we were going for karaoke after the first place closed. He never responded, but he did come to the new place. I've seen him there a handful of times and we've spoken, but again no real conversation. Until last night. My guy friend left and my girlfriend wasn't there, so I hung out at the bar alone for awhile. He came up to get another drink and the bartender was out smoking so we started talking. He asked me what I was doing Saturday, and told me I should come see his band at this new bar. I told him I had plans early that night, but I might be able to make it later (not really thinking I'd go). Then he said something about just turning 30. Hmmm...not as young as I thought! So I told him that the guy next to me was creeping me out. He said I should bring my "man" and that would take care of that problem. I told him I didn't have one, and he said he had always thought I was married. So this whole time I thought he was super young and for some reason he thought I was married. He told me to come sit with him and his friend to get away from creepy guy (that works every time, by the way), so I did. The friend was actually cuter, but he was 23! When I got ready to leave, he gave me his number and told me to text him to let him know if I was coming. So I texted him today after I secured a friend. I am not big on long texting conversations, but they must not bother him. Geez. I texted at 1:30 to say I was coming, and at 3:30 I finally had to tell him I was headed home and then taking a nap. I do think he's maybe far more eager, or maybe just more blunt/open than I am. He flat out asked me if I was interested and what I was looking for. I told him I was interested, but avoided the second question. I want a boyfriend, but I don't know if I want him as a boyfriend! Some guys are just fun to have around and aren't really dating material. I already have one of those. I don't really need another. I guess we'll see how tomorrow night goes. I'm going to try to make it so I drive with others so he doesn't think I'm open for anything other than getting to know him. He made some comments that I had to tell him to tame down a couple of times. I would say forget him because of that, except I know some guys are just far more bold that way. He didn't even try to touch me last night and he'd been drinking. I'll at least give him a chance. I figure it can't hurt! If anything, I get a little attention and a night out.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 6:52pm

I've had a cold most of the week--it was so bad that I went home early on Wed. & stayed home on Thurs which is rare for me.  I couldn't miss work on Fri cause I have so much to do.  I've been taking meds so I feel better but I'm still a little stuffy.  That I can deal with but occasionally I have a coughing fit--that's really not appealing to others.  I'm going to a dance tonight though--I had already bought the ticket a while ago and the guy I like is supposed to be there.  I'll be bummed if he doesn't show since it was only a week ago that he said he was going.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 3:09pm
I'm glad I could find someone to go with me! She's a new friend- actually single- and I haven't been able to trust her as a coworker in the past. She wants to get out more, though, so hopefully she'll be different as a friend. The guy mentioned that if I came alone, I could sit with his friend (the 23 year old) and he'd come hang out on breaks. He seemed to have thought it all out! I just hope this cold doesn't get worse. I feel okay on meds right now, but if it gets worse I won't feel like going anywhere tonight. I do think way too much about these things, but I know I'm not the only one!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 1:43pm

Yes, definitely go out & have fun.  I think people spend too much time on wondering what the future will bring that they don't enjoy the "getting to know you" part in the beginning.  It's good that you're going with a friend too--if he's in the band, he won't have that much time to talk to you.  We'll be waiting for the report.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 11:05am

Well, call me a dork, but I'm excited for you.  All the complexities aside, dating really can be a lot of fun.  I think it's exciting getting to know someone new . . . especially someone of the opposite sex ;)

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 9:15am

That's pretty much what I'm thinking, too. If he turns out to be a jerk, I haven't lost anything. He did text me again last night and still seemed normal, so that's a good sign!  I am kind of nervous. I don't know what to do with myself when a guy is actually interested anymore. At least I know he's been single for a long time, too. Maybe we're both out of practice. 

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 04-27-2013 - 1:18am

I miss the old days when you could re-read the OP when In the midst of replying.  Guess that's a casualty of using mobile devices....argh.

If I could offer any advice, I suppose I'd suggest just going with the flow and see where it takes you.  I'm sure you are aware of the saying, "You never know until you try".  If someone shows interest, just go with it.  See where it ends up.  What's the harm?  As I'm always telling a certain GF of mine, "At least you put yourself out there".  

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