This is SO wrong!

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Registered: 11-21-2005
This is SO wrong!
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 8:40am

There is a high school in New Hampshire that has a really unfair rule: you can't go to the prom without a date!!!


http://www.thebostonchannel.com/news/13256576/detail.html


I think that's terrible and should not be allowed!!!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 8:48am

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I don't know what etiquette book they're reading. "Formal" and "solo" have nothing to do with one another.

I've gone solo to white tie affairs at embassies - can't get much more formal than that.

But you're right - high school is tough enough. To be told you can't even go to your prom just because you're dateless - for whatever reason - is just wrong.


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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 10:20am

Yeah, I found their reasoning of "making it more formal" to be weak, myself.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 10:33am

White tie is the epitome of formal, and I go to several of those every year - and quite often without a date. As long as the hostess knows, so her tables are even, it really doesn't matter.

I wonder if this student will get a refund for all the money she's shelled out?


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Registered: 08-16-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 10:47am
I have to wonder why she even bothered asking, why wouldn't you just show up. Tons of kids went to our proms solo.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 11:51am

I know, why would she have asked?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 11:55am

That's so ridiculous. So, they're making kids feel even worse about themselves because they don't fit the mold of what so-called normal social behavior looks like.

Why do they feel the need to put this kind of pressure to date on teenagers? Teens have enough pressure in life without the adults deciding that it's inappropriate to NOT have a date for an event. At the same time, God forbid if these kids start experimenting sexually. The kids can't win - they're weird if they don't have a date, but bad if they have sex.

Those same adults are the ones making us still-single folk feel weird for showing up at a: wedding, office party, backyard BBQ, etc. dateless.

I never went to my proms, either, but I do know a lot of people just went in a big group. They didn't necessarily have a "date," but they had fun with their friends. Which is kind of the point, isn't it?

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 12:10pm
I know, I totally agree.
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 12:22pm
I completely agree how unfair this is. My sister went with a couple of friends of hers. I wonder if they are going to ban that too if a girl wants to go with a female friend or 2. I think that if they arent' allowing people to go solo then most likely they are banning this too. It's really sad because I thought society was moving forward in a sense that we are more accepting of what is not considered "the social norm". Teaching kids to accept themselves as they are shy or outgoing, with or without a date is what we should be doing and this is not encouraging good self esteem.
This just reminded me of a time that I went to a work Christmas party with a guy and a girl friend of mine and had a blast! Probably one of my best times that I had was when I went with my friends instead of a boyfriend.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 12:22pm

Exactly.

At some point, parents/teachers/schools, etc. have to accept the fact that teenagers are human beings who have feelings and rights. We adults cannot control everything they do, and creating these stupid rules in an attempt to control their behavior is just pointless.

I don't really understand what they are trying to achieve with this rule in the first place. What are they really afraid is going to happen if kids are not paired up? Do teenagers really couple dance anyway? When I was in high school, it was just one big mosh pit, so it didn't matter who your date was. Did I miss something - are kids now dancing waltzes and tangos?

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Edited 5/4/2007 12:24 pm ET by tallgirlcolo

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 12:24pm

>>My sister went with a couple of friends of hers. I wonder if they are going to ban that too if a girl wants to go with a female friend or 2. <<

I knew a lot of guys who went stag as well.

I wonder how they would react to a homosexual couple attending the prom?

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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