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Since some men have delurked...
| Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:35pm |
I have a question for you guys who have come out of the woodwork lately (and those who have been hiding for a few weeks).
Is there really such a thing as a shy man?

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It could be he is shy...but I don't think so. Being newly back in the dating scene I don't believe in playing games...not calling after you say you would...not answering the phone so they leave a message and then you call them back a day (or so) later...same goes with email and txt'ing. I don't believe in that stuff, just be honest and don't "play" the games. According to my friends...they won't call just see if she calls them first. If it's been a week, I may give a call...but again if they wanted to, then he would have. Maybe just give a call or leave a vm saying "Hi...give me call if you want to do something this weekend." But keep it short and to the point. If he answers let him direct the convo. Put the ball in his court and leave it at that. If he doesn't call back then you know he isn't interested and you move on. Atleast that's what my friends tell me I should do...but we aren't in the same situation...but similar in a sense.
Good luck.
-me
I'd have called him last week if I had his number.
It's funny you should mention this because lately I've been kind of pondering the same thing.
Exactly.
Yep.
For a man, you miss one opportunity, another one is right around the corner within the next week.
We out number them far too great.
I knew a guy who had his eye on one woman and that didn't pan out. She didn't feel the same. Within the next week or so, he was asking my advice about someone else.
Geesh Louise.
That's why I try not to build my hopes over one man. They're too fickle. One minute you're the hottie they want to know and then next minute, there's someone else even hotter they want to know.
Not pursuing any man. Nope. Not me.
My take is that this is not "shy" behavior. For me putting a label on the behavior, whether you call it "shy" or "scared" or whatever, does not matter. The bottom line is that he does not call you. I don't usually have the patience if the other person is not really ready to want to establish some sort of relationship with me. I am willing to put up with some emailing back-and-forth with newbie women who are scared of talking to strange men on the Internet but ultimately I want to talk and meet them (all those I correspond with are local) else I move on.
Mark
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