Some thoughts on the friend thing
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Some thoughts on the friend thing
| Sun, 12-10-2006 - 10:59am |
We had a couple of threads recently about friends who disappear when they start dating someone.
| Sun, 12-10-2006 - 10:59am |
We had a couple of threads recently about friends who disappear when they start dating someone.
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The whole "wedding" thing didn't even register with me until bbw mentioned it.
Yeah that whole blissful period of just enjoying the moment before the planning will be shortlived before the real planning starts since we plan to be married by October. I'm looking forward to it though. Just hoping it isnt too stressful while I'm trying to finish up my grad school stuff this semester.
I only talk about R with people I know wont get weird about it. The people I've had more trouble with are people I'm not even friends with but casual aquaintances or classmates (and these people are also attached)...mostly because they dont seem to be happy people and just want to be rude and obnoxious. Whatever, thats on them as their behavior is entirely unprovoked. Which is why I dont say anything...I dont think I deserve grief because I'm happy.
Im happy things are going well for you too, it sounds like you're in a good place right now. I miss Jules too, have you heard from her at all?
I emailed her last week and she's doing fine.
I definitely censor too depending on whom I'm around. The friend I spent Saturday with had no interest in hearing about my new (4 month) relationship, but insisted on talking about her ex from several years ago that she is still in contact with.
As far as posting about relationships on this single life board - I agree that it is hard to post about good things without making others feel bad, and hard to post about bad things without making the relationship seem like something that should be ended (because you only talk about the bad). What I do find interesting is people's experiences with building their new relationships - Amount of phone contact, seeing each other, meeting friends and family, saying "I love you", etc. It's nice to see what works and gives a good example of a healthy progressing relationship.
I sometimes think that Ivillage needs a board where people who have recently developed a good relationship can give advice to those who haven't yet.
Smile,
Deirdre
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