Someone make me move on please!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2003
Someone make me move on please!
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 3:23am

Ugh! I hate boys. Seriously.

So I met a guy while recruiting for my Job, and we started to hang out as friends. One night, we were drunk, out late, he came home with me and let's just say we started to see each other a lot more after that. We started to hang out about 3 times a week, many of those ending up at my place. Now, I know it was really just a friends with benefits program, but I was fine with that (though I do think he's pretty awesome in general). Anyhow, the Job found out, and they didn't care, but he had made it clear he didn't want them to know. I told him they knew, he was frazzled. also told him that his friend, a woman, had told my job because that is what my understanding was from my coworkers. I told him he didn't have to see me anymore if that made things easier for him, and he said not to confuse him wanting to see me with him not wanting to deal with the firm. In the end, he closed his offer with the Job. Later, I found out his friend HADN'T told, someone else had, but I never got around to telling him that, mainly because things have just been ridiculously weird between us since then. We went on a date date after that, but I didn't even get so much as a hug goodnight when he left. I thought maybe everything would be over after that, but he still wanted to see a movie that we had planned to see weeks ago. Anyhow, we're going to the movie, but everytime I bump into him things are still not as great as they were before. Clearly the spark is gone, but I keep making plans with him hoping it's not. What happened?! I really don't understand why he would still want to see me at all if he was over it. I mean, we've only known each other 3 months! But the complete lack of any show of interest is really starting to get to me.

Someone please just kick me till I move on!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2005
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 11:00am

Sounds like it's not moving forward and it's no longer worth your time & energy. Sometimes we 'stay attached' to someone because we don't have any other prospects. I'd go looking if I were you. You seem fairly outgoing, am I correct? Maybe make a deal with yourself that you'll attempt to find one new date for every two weeks?

Just don't waste your time anymore! Is that a good enough kick, lol?

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 10:15pm

It's a perfect kick. A date every 2 weeks seems both reasonable and feasible. It will also force me to not just take the easy way out and go with what I know. I'm definitely more outgoing now than I used to be. Now to put that trait to the test.

Thanks!