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Someone say something uplifting...
| Thu, 03-27-2008 - 3:18pm |
I have received today THREE sets of pictures from various friends (snapfish, etc) showing me their beautoful families/homes, etc during recent events (Easter, bdays). While I LOVE them, and am genuinely glad to see their updates (some being out of state), I am suddenly in quite the funk about the reality that they have these beautiful families and I have spent my spring break with my cat. (Love her, but you know what I mean). I feel like everywhere I look, people's lives are moving forward and I feel stuck. I'm 31 for Pete's sake, when is MY turn? Today, I am sad.
I know it

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The winter in Boston has gotten me down, too.
Hey Michelle - I totally understand how you're feeling!
Really, I think modern society has made us really lonely people. When I was 42 and had just broken up with the woman who was my soul connection on this planet, I thought for sure I would be in another meaningful relationship within a year or two. Five years later I wonder what all went wrong. There is no way it’s me because I have never had any problem with getting into a relationship. I’m sensitive, successful, and not too rough on the eyes. But somewhere, something in our society has gone wrong.
How many weeks of school do you have left?
Funny, when I got divorced at 34, I felt sure I would be in another relationship within two years. It didn't happen and that was quite some time ago. So, I can relate.
I'm always recommending books to people and for you I would recommend "Bowling Alone." It addresses the increasing isolation in our society, and actually cites television as one of the "problems." Oddly enough, he thinks that cable television with its dozens and dozens of channels has fragmented our culture even more. By this he means that it used to be that there were only 3 channels and most peopled watched the same programs, giving them water cooler conversation. Oh, and he says that the suicide rate has consistenly gone up in developing countries that acquire more televisions. Not cheerful, but interesting.
Anyway, he says all of this much better than I ever could.
Thank you,
That sounds like a good read. I'll order it!
Sounds like an interesting book. I'll check that one out.
I, too, have been really concerned about isolation in our society -- both from my own experience with loneliness and from watching others around me. It's sad that we seem to have lost our sense of community. It's hard to even ask a neighbor over for coffee because we all lead such compartmentalized lives. It gets really hard to do everything alone. (Like some other PPs, I left a long-term relationship 3.5 years ago, and I expected to find someone soon after that. Not the case.)
But... the OP asked for uplifting. So, here are mine:
- It's Friday - time for the weekend and potentially endless possibilities of things to do with our free time.
- We all always have choices. We are not limited by our circumstances - we can choose to change something. I always feel comfort from that idea. No, I can't really choose to go out and fall in love today, but I can choose to do something I enjoy. I can choose to leave a dead-end job. I can choose to call a friend and chat for awhile to feel less lonely.
- Nature. Whenever I feel really blue, I find a place to really be among nature. For me, the mountains or a stream are the perfect setting to clear my heart and mind. I think being cooped up all winter is one of the things that contributes to isolation and sadness, so I try to get outside even when it's cold.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I thought about your post a lot when I read it yesterday. I didn't know what to say to make it go away.
I'm feeling a bit down today too but I have some jokes from St. Patrick's Day that make me laugh.
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