Something I've always wondered

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Something I've always wondered
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 12:33am

This is kind of for the guys, but those of you with brothers would probably be able to answer, too.

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:45pm

What do you mean "look elsewhere"?

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:51pm

That sounds like it would have been a very interesting experience.

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:18pm

****well, we know how some men talk about women here!****

In some cases I would say you are using the word men a little loosely, don't you think? (-: Don't let insecure little boys be a voice. ((-:

As far as the else where comment . .. if the men around you are disrespectful always in regard to there conversations . . .anyplace but here is not always a bad thought. (-: Figured that out the day I met a drill instructor, and it was reinforced as a great instinct many times over from there! LOL . .. Seriously . . I could not even tell you how my two friends became so close . . . very unlikely matches on the surface. It just happened. However as you can see I leave myself pretty open to the idea.
I think she was right, one introduced by my ex girlfriend and at first we suffered each other out of courtesy to her . . .in time we discovered we enjoyed talking to each other a great deal. In the end she will last a lifetime I think. The other from work . . . again allowing time for it to happen and circumstance that kept romantic thoughts out of the picture . .. not sure how to advise on this if work does not offer opportunity.
I also risk just reaching out to people as well . . .worst case they say no. The Professor . . she is online only, strictly email . .. works very well for us. Some time next year IF I stop smoking my "reward" is us meeting in Key West. (-: The point is don't completely disregard this medium. It provides distance and safety . . room for a friendship to develop. (-:

I personally think you sound smart as a whip. And in a field if I understood another comment correctly that limits your day to day interaction with men, not unlike my time in the service . . hard thing to work around.

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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 2:34pm

I think guys are similar to how they act about their significant others when they're in love or really like the woman they're with.... But I also feel like if they're not with the girl of their dreams, but just somebody to pass their time, then no. I don't see guys thinking about them a lot and putting forth much effort. I really believe it has everything to do with timing and when they're with the right girl.

But in my opinion, there are differences with men and women in this area. I think women are more verbal when they miss their guy or if they're thinking about them. Whereas men, don't verbalize it. At all, actually. I think men are more worried about looking emasculated when they verbalize these these type of feelings or what they're thinking.

I guess when it comes to guys, I tend to tell myself not to get upset when they don't verbally tell me they miss me or how much they like me. I have to remind myself to look at how they treat me instead. The guy I am with has never told me he loves me, although we have already discussed our future together. But I will wake up to him tenderly caressing my arm or my face. He always initiates kisses and hugs me all the time. I could go on, but this is how he shows me how he feels about me.

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