Something....nothing....overanalyzing?

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Something....nothing....overanalyzing?
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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 1:20pm
So my sister and I go to our friend Laura's church on Sunday (about 45 minutes from our house, we were at her cottage for the weekend), and there's this super cool guy there (considering there are like 30 people at the church I was shocked!) laura knows the family really well, and she tells me that he's only 19 (I'm almost 21). but he doesn't look it...god, he had it all! beautiful eyes,super cool hair, nice tan, little bit of ruggedness (2 earrings, a little scruff, and a cool tattoo on his inner wrist)! turns out, he works in town, and we end up giving him a drive into town on our way home! (of course, the girls put him in the back with me.i was like poor guy!)anyways, he has awesome taste in music...Counting Crows, U2, bands I love.he can even sing....I was like "where have you been all my life!"

Anyway, he seemed pretty quiet, and I am pretty shy when it comes, so I didn't talk to him that much, even though I wanted to. Laura is VERY outgoing and came right out and said "so Aaron, do you have a g/f?" i nearly died. turns out though, he says "no, I haven't in a while, actually" i was like hmmmm. then at another point during the drive he mentioned one time he was on his motorbike with an old g/f and wiped out...i was like, "what does this mean?"

sooo sorry this was long and detailed, but I didn't want to forget anything. I can never tell if a guy is interested, but how do I make it known that I am and find out the same from him w/o seeming totally ditzy, desperate, etc?!

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 1:41pm
Is there a chance of seeing him again? If not, you blew it. You could pass on down the line for someone to tell someone to tell someone that you're interested, but how reliable is that?

If you see him again, make sure to ask questions, smile at him, brush his arm- basically, FLIRT. If he responds, great. If he doesn't, the move on. You don't really know this guy- you only know how he looks- so he could be a freak or something.

If you never see him again, just chalk it up to a lesson learned.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 1:44pm
Nothing you wrote gives a clue about whether he's interested in you. There's nothing there that you should even try to overanalyze.

The next time you see him, make an effort to talk to him and get to know him, and if you're still interested in him once you know more about him than just his tattoo and taste in music, flirt a little bit. It seems like you have very little to go on to make you wonder where he's been all your life. You can't possibly know enough about him at this point for that to even cross your mind.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 6:34pm
If he is interested, available and emotionally healthy, he will find a way to contact you.