Sometimes it just hits you...

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Sometimes it just hits you...
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Fri, 04-11-2008 - 6:03pm

that the life you're living is nowhere near the life you want. Yes, I have done the perfunctionary things such as bought a condo so I own property, but it's

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 1:40pm

Hi Beach.


I have had many days like

Soliel
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Registered: 07-13-2007
Sat, 04-12-2008 - 2:56pm

I have a wonderful, little dog but really how much conversation can you have with a dog.


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Quite a few. (-:

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 6:51pm

As I said before, I've had many days like you have.

Soliel
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Registered: 01-28-2008
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:16am
I completely agree with everything you said.
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 12:26pm

Here's what I gleaned from your post. You have:

- A home near the beach
- You own real estate
- An education
- A job that pays a decent income
- A little dog that gives you unconditional love
- You are healthy enough to run in a race
- You have a bike and can take a peaceful ride alone, if you want
- You have single girlfriends
- You could go out Friday night, but choose not to because you are doing something healthy for yourself in the morning


Why do you need to find the negative side to all of those GOOD THINGS? Enjoy them. It doesn't mean you have to stop dreaming, but don't put down who you are RIGHT NOW, TODAY. Start living your life today - don't miss it.


"You can't always get what you want; but, if you try sometimes, you just might find - you get what you need."

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 07-11-2001
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 5:10pm

Thanks to all that responded to my post. I am certainly trying to look at the brighter side of life, and on the whole am pretty content with my lot.


I think it was my father telling me the other day that my life is 'inadequate' that made me stop and think.


Beach

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 5:26pm
You're the second person this week who has mentioned a father making a comment like that. Sigh - that makes me sad. Parents need to learn to love us and be proud of us whether or not we fit some pre-determined mold of what success looks like. We each define our own success criteria - and your criteria don't have to match your father's.

Hugs. Comments like that hurt.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Wed, 04-23-2008 - 1:48pm

Beach


Nothing wrong with wanting someone to love and share your life with.

Soliel
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 4:17pm
it's a shame that some parent(s) have to be like that.
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Registered: 07-11-2001
Thu, 04-24-2008 - 4:55pm

Wishful -


I'm sorry that your relationship with your mum has never been easy. Hugs to you for that. I guess in some ways that's the reason I wish I could be a parent. To be the nuturing parent I wish mine had been. My parents are all about 'show' hence why I choose to live in another country. They are/were the best parents they could be, but my dad's last comment took the biscuit. I literally haven't seen my dad in person in 5 years, and I'm an only child. If they can't brag about it then they don't want to know.


The OPs have been great about letting me know the things I am fortunate for in my life. I even won my age-division in the race I ran the other Saturday, but it still wasn't good enough because I didn't make the Top 3 overall for women. I saw a counselor here once recently to find out about my anxiety before my time of the month, and from speaking to me she noted I have something of a 'perfectionist' mentality. Not necessarily in keeping my desk tidy, but more so in never being good enough.


I try to wake up each morning and remind myself of all the good things I should be grateful for, but it is hard to shake the little black cloud over my head telling me I am never good enough.


I keep working towards it though, and I just appreciate those taking time to answer my post.


Beach

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