Somewhat of a personal question....
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Somewhat of a personal question....
| Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:20pm |
How many is alot of sexual partners for a male soon to be 22? I was talking with some friends, and it seems that I am 1 less then the top (which is a 23 year old girl, who many consider slutty)... I never really thought I slept around, mainly because just about every girl I have slept with I've had a history with prior, or was dating/turned into a relationship. Aside from one 1 night stand.
So, I lost my virginity at a normal age (16, almost 17) and will be 22 in sept. What would be considered alot? normal?
(this is just including sex though, not other things... because then my prior statement is not true...)
Edited 6/24/2007 5:21 pm ET by kerplunk237

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I personally don't get hung up on numbers. Being safe is the key, in my opinion.
Edited 6/24/2007 7:29 pm ET by kerplunk237
To be honest, I don't like telling anyone my "number."
I'm with Shy - I don't like talking about my numbers, and I'd prefer not to know how many people a new partner has been with. However, safety and discussing past history is important - so is getting tested.
Now that I'm in my 30s, and the guys I date are in their 30s, I do really expect the numbers to be higher than what that article describes. I'd hope they are not in the porn-star range, of course, but I try not to think about it too much. :) In a perfect world, I guess I'd prefer someone with a similar history to me - a few long-term or more serious relationships rather than a string of one-night stands or casual hookups.
Is anyone else shocked that, according to that study, 16 percent of people report having had sex before age 15? Wow.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
>I would have expected the numbers to be a little higher, still....
Maybe some of us are a little out of touch with the mainstream. Thirty something never married singles are not exactly the mainstream, especially those with the viewpoint "..see nothing wrong with casual sex provided everyone is being honest and safe". Just guessing.
Edited 6/25/2007 3:02 pm ET by fruitedplain
Well there's also a very annoying stereotype in the media that people have LOTS of sex, which just pisses me off. Like on sitcoms when it's SUCH a huge deal when a character hasn't had sex in three months. Oh, give me a damn break...it's been far longer than that for me (well, not THAT much longer), but I don't get around, so to speak, and I'm not the type that ALWAYS has a boyfriend. I don't sleep with everyone I meet/date.
I also agree with minimal disclosure. If the sex is still good, who cares? I think the only time I'd be concerned is if it were WAY up there, that'd make me nervous. But other than that...my number's relatively low, but I don't want to be judged based on that. I'm 22! :) One of my friends thought being "safe" was asking how many partners a guy had had. A - a low number doesn't mean he's been safe; B - he could lie!! lol :) I just don't think it's relevant or necessary.
PS - I posted a pic...I'm not sure how long it'll be up because I don't know if I like it and I feel a little weird about it....but alas, it is there for the time being. :)
Edited 6/25/2007 2:42 pm ET by cml7721
>Like on sitcoms when it's SUCH a huge deal when a character hasn't had sex in three months.
Right. And people eat that up and it becomes a case of life imitating art.
BTW, you are pretty as a picture.
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