Somewhat of a personal question....

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Somewhat of a personal question....
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Sun, 06-24-2007 - 5:20pm

How many is alot of sexual partners for a male soon to be 22? I was talking with some friends, and it seems that I am 1 less then the top (which is a 23 year old girl, who many consider slutty)... I never really thought I slept around, mainly because just about every girl I have slept with I've had a history with prior, or was dating/turned into a relationship. Aside from one 1 night stand.

So, I lost my virginity at a normal age (16, almost 17) and will be 22 in sept. What would be considered alot? normal?

(this is just including sex though, not other things... because then my prior statement is not true...)




Edited 6/24/2007 5:21 pm ET by kerplunk237
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:01pm

I was in college my first time. What was the funniest thing is that I am very loud and extroverted and I remember one night all of us in the dorm was having like a truth or dare session and I revealed I was a virgin and the mouths dropped because I suppose because I was a loudmouth and extroverted girl they all assumed I was throwing it around to everyone. HAHA!!!

It was pretty funny.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:43pm
I genuinely love surprising people. I'm the opposite, I'm not necessarily quiet, but I'm very private about my love life especially, and though I was older when I lost it, there are definitely things about me that would surprise even my closest friends, haha. :)
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:59pm

I wont play like I am real smart, but "age" matters a lot as well. I was young, 14 . . .and active . . .rotten kid in the party crowd back in high school, and my first job at 15 was in a night club. THAT really helped my moral perceptions. (-: Everyone just wanted to just play.
We also had never heard of aids . . . That changed things very quickly for my generation. All of a sudden every place you looked someone was dieing. Scared the hell out of us.
I slowed down with age rather than speeded up.I agree a simple study is not all telling. (-: As an average . . . sounds kind of close. Killing the lows and building in the highs, right? (-: I never got past Algebra one . .. lol . . but have know a few that try something new several times a week . . . they can skew the numbers pretty good. lol

Don't ask, don't tell. A lot of partners might be referred to as experienced, but that does not necessary translate to skill ether. That seemed to be a consistent inference to the "larger numbers". (A little intimidation.) You can do it wrong forever if you don't care to get it right, and practice in selfish indulgence, or you never find someone who cares enough to assist in the endeavor of acquiring some real skills. (-: Nor does a lot of experience preclude someone necessary from being very happy with one partner . .. it is more about maturity than experience. Why get hung up on something that in the end has nothing to do with "who" the person is you are with, or how good they my treat you in all areas of your relationship. (-:

Yesterdays mistakes are today's wisdom . . .or so I believe.

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 1:07pm

>>A lot of partners might be referred to as experienced, but that does not necessary translate to skill ether. That seemed to be a consistent inference to the "larger numbers". (A little intimidation.) You can do it wrong forever if you don't care to get it right<<

Oh, so very true. I know of at least one man in my past who falls firmly in this category - yet he thought he was God's gift to women.

Respect and regard for the other person goes a long way, and it sounds like the OP has had both with the women he mentioned.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 3:18pm

Had to think how to say this right. (-: Dicy topic. ((-:

When I was a kid, no offence to anyone, but I think of all of my years prior to 25 that way, it was like a game of pick up volley ball on the beach . . .just for fun with whoever was around and in the mood to play with me. (No games or anything . .. just that crowd I hung with back then, and the time in history I think. It just was what it was.)

After a while you discover that with the right "team" you can elevate things to a world class level. (-: Whole new game with amazing skill sets. The experiance rises to a whole new level. Who would have thought all those happy old couples knew what they were doing all along. ((-: Go figure. And you know what, I have high hopes it will be proven true over the next ten years again, always more to learn. I am hoping at some point that last "team" falls right into place. lol

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 5:24am

>>though I'm not even bothering to argue, because I have no idea where on Earth that outburst came from.

You are probably right. After three hours of Rush and two hours of Sean, the pressure builds up and needs an outlet. So the first liberal who comes along hears it. :->

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 8:18am

ROFL

I've been getting kind of a kick out of the rants because they are rather blanketed that the entire board is "liberal" you'd be hard pressed to find anyone call me that in my life nor on the debate boards I participate in. But since this is a "the single life" board it really doesn't have much of a relevance unless I am posting about a boob I met that all they did was talk about Al Gore's global warming efforts (gag) or the latest Michael Moore film because that would be a dating disaster for me and I would think I would want to shoot myself and would probably post about it, but other than that I don't see the point of bringing it up in a post about numbers of men/women you sleep with and the rant on global warming.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:29am

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:14am

Well, I for one AM liberal, but socially more than anything else, and I'm really tired of being called a hippie or attacked because I am. Like you said, it has zero relevance to my dating life, and I'm friends with a good number of people with conservative outlooks anyway. I don't like blanket generalizations; just because I'm liberal-minded does not mean I'm an ignorant idiot who has no idea what she's talking about (and I'm not just referring to this board); I think anyone can pretty obviously see that there are plenty of those on BOTH sides of the fence. Again I am NOT talking about this board! Or any members! Seriously!! :)

Anyway, I figured there was a pretty good mix of outlooks on here.

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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 4:59pm

<<>>

And conversely, I'm sure you don't get paid and run to Corporate Headquarters and say "hey - how much of this do you want back?".

And yet, conservatives vote for people who support corporate welfare.

Pot...meet kettle...