soooo confused!

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Registered: 11-21-2005
soooo confused!
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:33am
i need some advice...i recently reunited with a friend from high school who has just returned from iraq. when i first saw him after he returned we hit it off right away. the next nite he took me to dinner and we talked for hours. our conversation went from everything to what it was like over there to what he was up to now. he mentioned quite a few times the relationship that he had while overseas. everything was fine with this girl, they were serious when he was gone, he's home now and she wants nothing to do with him. he is very hurt by this, i can tell that. he and i have become very close over the past few weeks, he is at my house just about every nite. when we watch movies he'll say little things that make me think that he want's to date like "see, that's the kind of relationship that i want, i want a girlfriend like that" or "i don't want to be single anymore". those seem like positive signs to me. i'm wondering if our closeness is just simply friendly or more. we have had sex since he's been back, now i'm questioning if it was just to get some or if he does want something more. in a recent phone conversation i asked what he had done that day, his reply: "well i helped my brother with his car and i just took Amanda home and now i'm headed home"...WHO'S AMANDA!! i don't want to be critical of him, we aren't in an exclusive relationship but it hurts me to think that he just wanted a piece and nothing more.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 10:39am
Purely based on your post, it does sound like he wants to date, but not necessarily that he wants to date you. If you want a relationship with him, I would bring the subject up with him the next time you're together.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 12:07pm

Hmmm...I would have said, "Oh, who's Amanda?" in a pleasant, non-accusing way - then you'd at least know if she's someone he's seeing.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 4:04pm
you mentioned you had sex...well there is your answer..he is having fun with you..and you are giving it to him...if you can`t deal with sex without a relationship,why the heck are you doing it then?he is being a man...men want sex..telling you he wants a relationship is typical guy talk..yes they always want relationships...sex when they see you...a man`s idea of relationship differes from a woman`s..don`t see him anymore,if this is not something you can handle.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 7:46pm

Yep, I agree.


In my opinion, a guy who has sex with a woman and doesn't take her out on a date in the