So..there's this married guy at work....
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| Sat, 10-06-2007 - 8:23pm |
Thought that'd get your attention. hehee
Let me say in advance, that no way, ever, would I have an affair..I am 39yrs old..and that has been one vow in life that I have stuck with. So, please don't lecture me on that....I just wanted to throw this on the table and get your opinions-
I am just very curious..there is a guy that transferred to my area from a different shift...and I didn't know who he was at first...and then he asked me if he could help me move some boxes one day..very sweet...and he caught my eye...but what really struck me is he was VERY OBVIOUS over the next week or two in checking me out...flirting..I would see him staring at me from half way across the plant we work at.......so I thought that he MIGHT ACTUALLY BE SINGLE...........WOW- I was so giddy..and excited...he was soo cute..and such a sweetheart...beautiful smile, great personality..etc.............
Then, WHAM........about 3 weeks into the daily flirting.....I found out he was married....bc I am an Admin..and someone called me to give him a message that the T-shirts were ready for him to pick up for he and his WIFE...for a habitat for humanity project they volunteered for.
Ughhh.......I was sooo devastated......but of course, it's MY LUCK...so it didn't surprise me much at all.....lol
I JUST DON'T GET IT.......I mean, he wasn't "sleazy" in his flirting like some married men can be....but it was so obvious that he was checking me out...and showing interest..............WHAT WAS HIS POINT??? I don't think he wanted to cheat on his wife.....
I have since talked to someone who has known him and his wife for years....and she said as far as she knew they were happily married....that he is a super nice person...etc...not a sleazebag..........

The simple answer is that he flirts because he can.
Wow, is this a familiar story!
Hi,
I find the phenomenon of married men checking out/flirting with other women not uncommon. I think it's their need for validation that they're still attractive. As a rule women don't flirt with married men so the married men have to do some flirting to feel more alive.
OTOH, there are people who are just flirtatious by nature so it doesn't matter whether they're married.
Yeah, I guess it's the "I'm married, but not dead" thing...he worked the night shift where there were No women..and then suddenly here is a single, pretty girl that he sees daily. Not to brag..but I stick out like
I think some guys don't plan on cheating, but they will sure flirt for the thrill of it. Then there are the other camp of guys who would take it too far and actually cheat. Personally, I want nothing to do with that, and didn't even want to know which camp he is in. LOL.. So once I found out he was married, I moved on.
AJ, enjoying life with C.