Speaking of When Harry Met Sally...

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Speaking of When Harry Met Sally...
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 1:43pm

I think bbw mentioned this movie on another thread and its a funny coincidence because I watched the DVD twice yesterday (its my favorite romantic comedy and I hate romantic comedies!)

Anyway, it got me thinking (dangerous, I know I should stop), I've always thought and movies like this make me think that the best, strongest, most lasting relationships happen when the two people meet totally naturally, coincidently and while they were not looking for each other. Sure, there are people who have gotten together through setups and online and while actively looking but in my experience and in observing the few people I knew who've found lasting love, it seems to stick better when paths just naturally cross.

Which is one of the reason why I don't want to actively seach or seek too hard. I feel that I won't find it if I look. It should naturally just come.....or not.

What do you think?

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:07pm

This is lengthy, but for the romantic at heart, inspiring, if you have the time. I didn't include the scenes with Harry and Sally so that it wouldn't be a spoiler for those who may not have seen the movie. Enjoy : )

--To cl214, I completely agree with you, there's just something special about chance encounters that evolve into life long love.

From WHMS transcript:

**********1st documentary scene:

(An elderly couple sitting on a couch)

Man: I was sitting with my friend Arthur Cornrom in a restaurant. It was
an ___ ___ cafeteria and this beautiful girl walked in and I turned to Arthur
and I said, "Arthur, you see that girl? I'm going to marry her, and two weeks
later we were married and it's over fifty years later and we are still
married.

**********2nd documentary scene:

(Another old couple on the same couch)

Woman: We fell in love in high school.

Man: Yeah we were... we were high school sweethearts.

Woman: But then after our junior year his parents moved away.

Man: But I never forgot her.

Woman: He never forgot me.

Man: No, her face is burned on my brain. And it was thirty four years later
that I was walking down Broadway and I saw her come out of _______ .

Woman: And we both looked at each other, and it was just as though not a
single day had gone by.

Man: She was just as beautiful as she was at sixteen.

Woman: He was just the same. He looked exactly the same.

**********3rd documentary scene

(Another old couple on the same couch)

Man: We were married forty years ago. We were married three years, we got a
divorce. Then I married Margerie.

Woman: But first you lived with Barbara.

Man: Right, Barbara. But I didn't marry Barbara I married Margerie.

Woman: Then he got a divorce.

Man: Right, then I married Kitty.

Woman: Another divorce.

Man: Then a couple of years later at Atticalicio's funeral, I ran into her. I
was with some girl I don't even remember.

Woman: Ruberta.

Man: Right, Ruberta. But I couldn't take my eyes off you. I remember I snuck
over to her and I said... What did I say?

Woman: You said, "What are you doing after?"

Man: Right. So I ditched Ruberta, we go for a coffee, a month later we were
married.

Woman: Thirty five years today after our first marriage.

**********4th doc scene

(New old couple again)
(They "cross-talk" all the time, they kind of overlaps each other's speech)

Man: We were both born in the same hospital.

Woman: Nineteen twenty one.

Man: Seven days apart.

Woman: In the same hospital.

Man: We both grew up one block away from each other.

Woman: We both lived in tenements.

Man: On the lower east side.

Woman: On Delancey Street.

Man: My family moved to the Bronx when I was ten.

Woman: He lived on Fordham Road.

Man: Hers moved when she was eleven.

Woman: I lived on a hundred and eighty third Street.

Man: For six years she worked on the fifteenth floor as a nurse where I had a
practice on the fourteenth floor in the very same building.

Woman: I worked for a very prominent neurologist, Dr.
(someone or rather). We never met.

Man: Never met.

Woman: Can you imagine that?

Man: You know where we met? In an elevator. In the ambassador hotel in
Chicago Illinois.

Woman: I was visiting family. He was on the third floor I was on the twelve.

Man: I rode up nine extra floors just to keep talking to her.

Woman: Nine extra floors.

**********5th, well, you know

(Another old couple)

Woman: Well, he was the head counsellor and the boys' camp and I was the head counsellor at the girls' camp, and they had a social one night, and he walked across the room. I thought he was coming to talk to my friend Maxine, 'cos people were always crossing rooms to talk to Maxine. But he was coming to talk to me, and he said...

Man: I'm Ben Small of the Coney Island Smalls.

Woman: At that moment I knew. I knew the way you know about a good melon.

**********6th and last folks ; )

(Another old couple.)

(Woman nods while the man kept talking.)

Man: A man came to me and said, "I found nice girl for you, she lives in the
next village, and she is ready for marriage." We were not suppose to meet
until the wedding, but I wanted to make sure. So I sneak into her village,
hid behind a tree, watch her washing the clothes. I think if I don't like the
way she looks, I don't marry her. But she look very nice to me. So I said,
"OK." to the man. We get married. We married for fifty five years.




Edited 12/4/2006 3:20 pm ET by bbw_26
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:17pm
Well, not to say that I know that this is going to last forever but the guy that I'm with right now I find I have a great connection with, emotional, mental, physical and I met him online. Who goes to say what will happen, but I have a really good feeling so far. I think that there is just as likely of a chance that you meet someone online or get set up and it lasting for the long haul as if you were to just run into someone at random. But that's just my opinion. It's hard to meet that special someone regardless of the avenue that you meet them with.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:23pm

Oh, of course. I wasn't insinuating otherwise. I just think it's romantic. Well, both are circumstances are romantic in their own way ... you get the point ; )

Good luck to you!

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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:30pm
True, meeting someone at random is a more romantic way usually, I agree. It makes for a better story to tell :-). I was very surprised that this new relationship has been very romantic since day one because of the fact that we met online (maybe becuase he's just a seriously romantic type and I follow suit). It is more common for a more romantic situation to happen at random though.... Me and my friends tell other people when we meet someone online that we met them at a "bonfire" it's our code word for online dates lol.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:36pm
That's funny, an old co-worker of mine met her husband online so they made up a story about how they met. We were tight so she told me the truth. Hee-hee. (I've done the online thing too)
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:41pm
I absolutely love the stories of the elder couples who've been together for 40 and 50 years. So romantic. And I love how they found each other in such unique ways.
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:56pm
Me too! Did you know that they are actors? For years I thought that they were real life couples. I was a little bummed when I found that out, but at least I know they do exist. My parents met by chance and have been married for 45 years.
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Tue, 12-05-2006 - 11:54am

I agree that it seems like the best relationships happen naturally while we aren't actively seeking them. My parents met in college when they were both working at the dining hall. My friend met her husband also in the college dining hall... she smiled at him and when he saw her sitting alone he came and sat with her. I hope that that is the way it happens with me... but just to keep in dating practice and just in case that is NOT the way it happens for me, I'm doing some online dating (and not having much luck).

The guys that I've liked the most in the past are the ones who've started out as friends and turned into crushes... sadly they haven't felt the same about me otherwise maybe I wouldn't be single!

It's been a while since I watched When Harry Met Sally... guess I'll add it to my netflix queue now!

-Alison