Starts with a lie....ugh

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Starts with a lie....ugh
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Sat, 09-08-2012 - 12:55pm
Hi all! Last night I went on my first online date in 6 months. For the most part it was a good night. The guy is a little bitter over his ex wife. Normally that's a deal breaker for me but I'm letting it slide at least enough to give him a second date, because he was also sweet, charming, we have a lot in common and we talked for 6 hours. Oh, and he is mega hot with amazing biceps (my weakness tee hee). But the one thing that irked me is he lied about his height. His profile said 6'3" and there is no way. I'm 5'6" and with my 4 inch heels I was as tall as him. If I knew he was only 5'10" I would have still gone out with him (I just wouldn't have worn the heels), but the thing is he lied and its not like he just fudged a little. Ugh. Do you think this is a red flag, or should cut the guy a break?
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 1:04pm
I could maybe understand putting 6' because some women wouldn't search for anything less than that, but five inches is pretty noticeable. I'd really wonder what else he lied about or could lie about. I'd probably try to call him out on it. Maybe say something about not wearing those heels around him again and see what he says. Height isn't a huge issue, but lying about who you are is and that could be something he is okay with doing.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 1:59pm

Is there a possibility that he mis-clicked?  If it were bothering me, I'd just ask. 

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 7:06pm

One time, I put the wrong height in one of my dating profiles and a guy asked me if I was joking or was I that short.

I still don't understand the North American way of putting height as foot and feet. I grew up using metres and centimetres.

Is this guy by any chance a new immigrant (my question). The question mark is not working on my laptop.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 11:59pm

I just can't imagine why people would lie about their height--we women know how tall we are so we can always tell that immediately if the guy is lying.  People can fudge their age by a few years and we wouldn't be able to tell--but height is obvious.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 11:24pm
I don't think it was a mistake and he has lived in the U.S. all his life. But it doesn't matter anyway...I haven't heard from him, so it looks like he saved me the trouble. I swear, something about me repulses men. In this case, I guess that's a good thing :/ I have dealt with enough liars in my lifetime, I certainly don't need another!
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 2:17pm
There was a guy who I met a couple years ago. I remembered him being a little older than me when we met. Now he has a new dating profile and put his age at 33 and I am 36.

So I questioned him about his age saying that I thought he was older than me. He replied asking why age matters to me.