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| Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:00pm |
Would like your thoughts on this:
I was invited by an acquantance to go to a group dinner. She recently moved out of town and is coming into town for a visit.
I like this woman but am not close. She was

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I think it would poor etiquette to criticize her choice.
Yeah, that is pretty expensive. I agree though, that you shouldn't tell her that she chose a place that was too expensive. Maybe she picked something that she felt would be most appropriate for the group she invited.
OH, I wasn't going to criticize at all.
Ah ok, good ;-).
So how about suggesting another place?
I am not close enough to her to do that.
My take is that if I'm invited then I'm "allowed" to make a suggestion, especially if I'm invited.
Alternatively, you can suggest another way of getting together with her and others outside the dinner.
I don't know that its appalling and I think it's silly to get so offended by something as a simple invitation to something. Just say no if you can't afford it you are under no obligation to go.
Just simply say, I'd love to attend but I'm just unable too and leave it at that, you don't need to explain that money is tight.
Smile,
Deirdre
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Sorry Mark, but that's just really bad manners. One doesn't correct one's host.
If you (general you) don't like the venue, you can always say "I'm not able to attend on XXX day, but next Saturday I'd love to organize a get together at Joe's Pub".
I am not offended! I am not remotely upset, either.
I explained this prior.
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