Sticky Situation

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sticky Situation
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:00pm

Would like your thoughts on this:


I was invited by an acquantance to go to a group dinner. She recently moved out of town and is coming into town for a visit.


I like this woman but am not close. She was

Soliel

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:13pm

I think it would poor etiquette to criticize her choice.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:30pm

Yeah, that is pretty expensive. I agree though, that you shouldn't tell her that she chose a place that was too expensive. Maybe she picked something that she felt would be most appropriate for the group she invited.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:32pm

OH, I wasn't going to criticize at all.

Soliel
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:10pm

Ah ok, good ;-).

Avatar for mhash
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:18pm

So how about suggesting another place?

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:23pm

I am not close enough to her to do that.

Soliel
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:58pm

My take is that if I'm invited then I'm "allowed" to make a suggestion, especially if I'm invited.


Alternatively, you can suggest another way of getting together with her and others outside the dinner.

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 8:23am

I don't know that its appalling and I think it's silly to get so offended by something as a simple invitation to something. Just say no if you can't afford it you are under no obligation to go.


Just simply say, I'd love to attend but I'm just unable too and leave it at that, you don't need to explain that money is tight.


Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:06am

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Sorry Mark, but that's just really bad manners. One doesn't correct one's host.


If you (general you) don't like the venue, you can always say "I'm not able to attend on XXX day, but next Saturday I'd love to organize a get together at Joe's Pub".


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Registered: 10-14-2001
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:22am

I am not offended! I am not remotely upset, either.


I explained this prior.

Soliel

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