still single

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Registered: 10-05-2007
still single
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Fri, 10-05-2007 - 11:54pm
Have not really written to one of these boards, but here it goes.
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In reply to: dodge999
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 9:14am

I'd recommend a few things that have worked for me as a woman. If you don't like the bar/club scene, find a few new activities to try out. Step out of the box a little. If you've never cooked, try cooking classes. Single women are everywhere doing these sorts of things. I have friends joining all sorts of clubs and taking classes to see if they can meet someone.

Also, along the lines of trying out new things, change your routine. If you commute to work, take an earlier train in the morning than the one you normally take. Go to a different coffeehouse. This summer one of the dates I went on was with someone I met because stepped out of my normal routine and made a new friend who fixed me up.

If you might be game for the bar/club scene, try going to an organized event, like a cocktail hour in your neighborhood. Big cities have these sorts of things. Get to know the organizers. They'll break the ice for you. They pull these types of events together just to be more social and get people together. Some of them even advertise them in as singles events, and I know in my city, there are almost always more women than men at these sorrts of things so it will be in your favor. I went to one of these things several weeks ago and met someone I've gone out on a few dates with. Chances are you probably won't meet some alcoholic floozie type-- I'm assuming that's not what you're looking for-- but smart, professional well-dressed women who for one reason or another can't get a date to save their lives.

I realize it's all easier said than done. Get a friend involved too, either to participate in doing things like this with you and helping you talk to people, or just ask them flat out to set you up. My female friends are always looking to fix me up. They never get it right, but at least it gets me a few dates and I can still say I tried.

Oh, and this came from the book Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray. I know these types of books usually don't appeal to men, but there was a good bit of advice in there for men that I saw and totally agree with. If you just happen to have a job that entails wearing a uniform (take note, he doesn't mean a McDonald's uniform of course ;-) )-- police, military, fireman-- when you wear it, work it ;-) Trust me, if you look good in it, we will notice.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: dodge999
Sat, 10-06-2007 - 10:08am

Do you talk to women?

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Registered: 12-03-2003
In reply to: dodge999
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 12:18am
Check out some meetup groups and meetup.com and see if you like it. I am single and some of the groups first of all introduce you to new people and you get to hangout with no pressure. Hope this helps.