Stop Looking, It'll Happen?
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Stop Looking, It'll Happen?
| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 9:33am |
I know that for lots of people, they meet someone when they aren't actively looking. I know cause its happened for me. And yet, I feel compelled to look and actively put myself out there because i know when I'm not really looking, I never get dates.
I'm not one who is usually pursued (I guess they are intimidated or assume I'm taken), nor do i get approached by anyone above the young, horny-toads, so I feel like if I want to date, I have to really try and end of initiating things. The downside, is I end up pursuing things to and they don't ever pick up and pursue me back.
Any thoughts on this?

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It happens, but don't count on it. Years ago when I was in grad school, one Saturday afternoon I remember sitting in the recreation room of our university apartment complex, minding my own business, bothering nobody, and playing the piano magnificently like I always do. When I was almost done playing what I was playing, a woman tiptoed up to the piano and stood to my front leaning against the piano ( a Kawai grand - great sound, great touch but nowhere near a Steinway). I must have had my eyes closed during the last few bars as I was trying to focus and wanted to finish well. But when I opened , there she was --beautiful, gorgeous, radiant. An array of perfect teeth, a perfect smile, a dimple and hair just down past her shoulders. I was a little taken aback because it's not what I had expected to see.
But before I could say anything, she started, "Hi, I am . That was REALLY nice. What was it ?" I told her it was the Maple Leaf Rag by Scott Joplin, Joplin's finest rag and one of the hardest to play. And then I introduced myself. "But you made it look so easy..". I shrugged and nodded in agreement. She laughed.
Thus began an almost 5 year relationship between R and myself.
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Can relationships come out of nowhere and thrust themselves onto your face when you are not out looking ?
I will say it has happened before, but more than likely they will not.
Edited 6/26/2007 7:51 pm ET by fruitedplain
Actually, I do drive a Corolla!
See that was your opportunity to say "I wish I was the owner of the Corrolla so I could properly thank you with dinner"
*wink*
Smile,
Deirdre
Smile,
Deirdre
I decided to hedge my bets - I have a Match profile and I started to do things I always wanted to do, like learning to sail and climbing more often. I'm working under the principle that I'm getting out there bettering myself, and that is what attracts people. I'm not in hurry to get married and I don't want children, so I'm learning to take it as it comes.
~Heather~
Like I could ever think of anything like that on the spot!
I'll just take life as it comes at me. Que sera.
~Heather~
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