Is this strange or weird??

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Is this strange or weird??
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Wed, 08-06-2014 - 1:33pm

I met up with some friends yesterday in a local pub by the beach................After the friends left I went over to the new ice cream shop to check it out and its kind of in a small shopping center............So while i was just coming out of one store a man who was just standing in front of Outback said to me Hi.. how are you.. Would you like to join me for dinner? I was like what??? well I just had some brunch with some friends but thank you anyway...He said he was waiting for a friend for dinner but I wasnt sure if the friend was male or female and I didnt ask..............We chatted for a bit and then I went into the next store. When i came out he was still standing there and we chatted some more. He said I was attractive and had a nice smile and seemed nice.. Is that a pick up line ? LOL..............He said he was looking for a some'in some'in relationship and he doesnt do online or bars or whatever and so he figured he would ask me to join him for dinner LOL.....My sis said I should have joined him for dinner but I felt really uncomfortable.............So he said well call me and we can go out or whatever.. I am thinking he is just looking for some sort of fling or something but who knows?? We only chatted for 15 minutes or so...

PS. He is my age of 60 and he wasnt bad looking.. and he could carry a nice conversation and he had a job LOL....

I will probably call him if I can get up the nerve ..........................but felt like a hooker or something getting picked up on the street.....LOL....

any suggestions; thoughts????

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 1:47pm

I do find it very odd that his first line to you was will you have dinner?  I mean I have heard of people meeting in the grocery store, etc. but you'd think that you'd chat a little while with someone first and then issue an invitation.  If he gave you his name at least you could Google him and make sure he is who he says he is and he's not on America's Most Wanted or something like that.  I suppose you should just take the same precautions that you would for someone on OLD as far as meeting in public, don't let him know where you live, etc.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 3:51pm
Why not call him and go out for coffee? Meet in a public place. Besides he sounds like a decent person.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 4:04pm

ha ha ..He didnt appear as a threat or dangerous or anything..............My intuition would have told me that so I am not concerned about that.............Its the same as meeting someone anywhere I would think for that matter.

My ex came highly recommended and he was a nut case..

Anyway; Yeah; well he has my number now also as we called each others phones and left our number on the phones...So I will probably call him............He lives by the beach and there are plenty of places for coffee drinks, etc..

Well stay tuned and lets see if I have the guts to call him..............LOL

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2007
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 5:05pm

Was his looking for a little some'in' some'in' mean that he was looking for a friends with benefits or no strings attached type of thing.  If so, that 60 year old has got some bravado to bring it up within a few minutes of meeting someone.  

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 5:39pm

Good ging you got his phone number don't wait and see if he will call .  Call him that way you take charge and then it's yea or nay.  No waiting.

chaika

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 8:30pm

Yeah; that was kind of forward to tell someone you just met that they were looking for some'in some'in but maybe at 60 time is short and you have to just get that out in the open.. LOL...........Heck if I know..

I dont even know or remember how that even came up.. I think he said he was never married and had no kids and do I have kids... I said yes one son ..........and then he said well I never really made many committments except to one girl who we got engaged but then we never got married.. I guess then he said yeah; at my age too now I am not looking for a committed relationship so yeah; that is either a some'in some'in or fling.. I dont think fwb .. heck we might be too old for that......but hey you never know..

xxs.. Yes I will def. call and see if he wants to meet or go out..

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 8:55pm
After your elaboration....he definitely wants sex.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 9:41pm

Heck; Shy I want sex too......................and not sure but I wouldnt mind some'in some'in .. I dont know anymore if I want a whole real full blown love  relationship.... some days I do and some days i dont so i am sure confusing the unviverse...........I guess I dont want any drama anymore in my life or to do the hard work it takes to be in a relationship but then i think oh; to have someone to share and care and just be there for you and all of that......blah blah blah.

what did you mean by elaborate.. did I get that right??

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 08-06-2014 - 10:35pm

Love it, keep us posted - sounds like an adventure

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Thu, 08-07-2014 - 8:08am

Free, nothing wrong if he wants sex with you since he found you attractive. Same for you too. Nothing wrong if you want sex with him since you also found him attractive. You are both adults and single. I wouldn't rule him out based on the fact he wanted sex. Who knows it might lead to something permanent. It is nice to have someone for companionship.

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