Stupid things irk me

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Stupid things irk me
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 11:21pm

I met this guy on plentyoffish.com about 3 months ago, and we've talked on and off since then, just casually. We decided to finally meet 2 weeks ago. We got along great, he's adorable and funny and sweet, etc.

We went out 3 times in that first week, and had at least some sort of contact the other days (IM, txt msg, phone calls), for a week and a half. Very low key, not talking about "relationships" or anything, just hanging out.

Well, on Tuesday when I talked to him, I asked if he wasn't doing anything on Wednesday night, if he wanted to come over, b/c I was cooking for once. He asked what time I got off work, and when I said at 5, he said he'd call me then and let me know.

I didn't hear from him.

Then Thursday...nothing...Friday...nothing...then today around 3, I sent him a text that said, "You missed some awesome bbq pizza...whatcha been up to lately?"

And nothing.

So just now, at 10:30, he sent me a mySpace message that said, "Sorry I haven't called you...my brother took my phone with him to PA this week, and he just called to tell me you sent me a text msg..."

That's it.

So...I'm thinking, well, he said he'd call on Wednesday to let me know if he was coming over...and here it is Saturday and he knows that we've talked somehow everyday for almost 2 weeks...wouldn't you think that he would have e-mailed me or IM'd me before now?

And my thing is, even if he didn't know my phone number without his phone, couldn't he have gotten it from his brother out of his phone when he called, and call me from the house phone that his brother called him on?

I know it's small stuff, but I'm tired of guys who are all into you until you show some interest, then ghost. I'm sick of stupid little games.

Your take on it?

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Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 11:29pm

You're preaching to the choir.

Avatar for filiasan
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Registered: 02-29-2004
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:17am
He chickened out. You were taking it easy...just hanging out. And all of a sudden, you invite him to your house. He gets scared because now he thinks that things are turning serious. He backs off. Avoidant type. I know that type. I'm one of them.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:09am

>Your take on it?

Stop dating intelligent men and start dating men with a high IQ!




Edited 6/18/2006 4:11 am ET by hal_9000
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 10:01am
Does having a high IQ automatically mean they have integrity??
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 10:55am

>Does having a high IQ automatically mean they have integrity??

No. Just less likely they will have a stupid reason for not calling..

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 2:26pm

LOL...I would think the more intelligent you are, the more likely you can find a really dumb reason not to call. More thought out dumb reason if you will...

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:12pm

I dated a guy who was in Mensa, and he came up with stupid reasons for not calling. Like, "I fell asleep. Sorry."

The WeatherPixie
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:15pm

I agree that he chickened out, which was really quite silly when all it was was having dinner at your house. But at least now you know his level of maturity, and better sooner than later!


Avatar for cl_shywon
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:15pm

Gotta love the fell asleep excuse.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:26pm
Falling asleep on its own isn't a stupid reason. Not calling for a few days and saying it's because he fell asleep is stupid. I was expecting the mensa bashing to start though...

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