Stupid things irk me

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Stupid things irk me
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 11:21pm

I met this guy on plentyoffish.com about 3 months ago, and we've talked on and off since then, just casually. We decided to finally meet 2 weeks ago. We got along great, he's adorable and funny and sweet, etc.

We went out 3 times in that first week, and had at least some sort of contact the other days (IM, txt msg, phone calls), for a week and a half. Very low key, not talking about "relationships" or anything, just hanging out.

Well, on Tuesday when I talked to him, I asked if he wasn't doing anything on Wednesday night, if he wanted to come over, b/c I was cooking for once. He asked what time I got off work, and when I said at 5, he said he'd call me then and let me know.

I didn't hear from him.

Then Thursday...nothing...Friday...nothing...then today around 3, I sent him a text that said, "You missed some awesome bbq pizza...whatcha been up to lately?"

And nothing.

So just now, at 10:30, he sent me a mySpace message that said, "Sorry I haven't called you...my brother took my phone with him to PA this week, and he just called to tell me you sent me a text msg..."

That's it.

So...I'm thinking, well, he said he'd call on Wednesday to let me know if he was coming over...and here it is Saturday and he knows that we've talked somehow everyday for almost 2 weeks...wouldn't you think that he would have e-mailed me or IM'd me before now?

And my thing is, even if he didn't know my phone number without his phone, couldn't he have gotten it from his brother out of his phone when he called, and call me from the house phone that his brother called him on?

I know it's small stuff, but I'm tired of guys who are all into you until you show some interest, then ghost. I'm sick of stupid little games.

Your take on it?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 3:41pm

Falling asleep is a stupid reason because this same guy was able to show up for work regularly, attend soccer games regularly, go to the pub regularly ... all without falling asleep preventing him from doing it. He was not suffering from narcolepsy. And I was by no means Mensa-bashing. I was only pointing out that dating someone with a high IQ doesn't mean anything except that he/she has a high IQ. It's not an indication of how they will treat you in a relationship.

The WeatherPixie
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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:26pm

Exactly...

and some people have integrity and some people don't... has nothing to do with IQ level, but just a choice as how to live life.

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:28pm
That excuse has got to rate right up there with "my dog ate my homework"!! lol
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:32pm
"That excuse has got to rate right up there with "my dog ate my homework"!! lol"

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:40pm

>I agree with you about integrity. Which is *the* most
>important quality, IMO. If it's not there, it doesn't
>matter what other good qualities are there.

This is interesting. I will through go as many online profiles as I can and see how many times the following words are used by women in their profile:

1) Integrity
2) Tall
3) Intelligence
4) GSOH
5) Sincere

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:49pm

In my profile, I do specify that integrity is one of my core values. There is nothing about height, other than my own. I speak of my own intelligence and my prospect's, but in a round-a-bout way (challenge me and I will challenge you). Nothing about sense of humor. And to me sincerity is redundant of integrity.

I don't consider myself to be among the masses, so my profile is probably not representative of most you will read.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 4:57pm

>but in a round-a-bout way (challenge me and I will challenge you).

Do you actually say "Intelligent"? I have read a number of profiles from women who say "I can give as good as I get". So I wonder if some women mean "sassy" when the say "intelligent"?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:46pm

I don't hear "my dog ate my homework" so much as I hear "my mom threw it away."

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 5:51pm

I'm really trying to figure out your point here, Hal.

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 6:03pm

"I'm really starting to think that maybe you're just a really smart guy who happens to be short, and you're upset with women because you're not getting the dates you feel you deserve."


I have to say, hal, I was thinking the same thing as cl-shywon wrote above. Believe it or not, there really are women who don't care about the height of the guy they're with. I'm one of them.