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| Sat, 05-20-2006 - 10:13pm |
I am completely and totally FED UP with flakey people...MEN in particular.
How is a woman supposed to find a guy to love and love her when she can't even get a guy to follow through on plans or better yet, even make a freakin' phone call?

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Shy, I'm sorry, that really sucks. But I'm curious...why *wouldn't* you call this guy on his flaky behavior? It *is* him...he flaked! What did he say last night when you talked to him and reminded him? Just that he forgot and that he'd call you today...and then he didn't? Lame on TOP of lame!!!!
You're not "doing" anything to make them flake...these guys are flaking all on their own. It's who and how they are. I'm sure this guy likes you just fine...but he's a flake.
I would call him on it for sure...and he can either step up, or not. If not, then you can decide if you can accept his flakiness or not. Granted, the pickings are slim if you weed out the flakes ;-), but it's your perogative to do so!
Sheri
I really don't like confrontation.
I understand about confrontation...it's hard for me, too. But standing up for yourself and enforcing boundaries around how you want to be treated isn't the same as bossing someone around, I don't think.
As for your last question, my thought is, no...if they weren't FLAKES, they wouldn't flake. They are just being who they are.
Sheri
>I mean, if they were interested enough, they wouldn't flake, right?
Right, they wouldn't. He didn't forget the plans with his friends did he? Plus, he was only making a tentative "date" (dinner or something??) with you in case the plans with his friends fell through. This man isn't as keen as you are. You can label him a "flake" if it makes you feel better but don't for a second think you can beat him into submission. Your time and energy will be better spent on finding someone else.
Actually, my understanding was that he was going to forget about the plans with his friends (because they were tentative) and come up to see me.
Gotta agree with Sherry, call him on it. NOW!! We are all too old to still be acting like kids. Hang in there, things will get better.
GT35
Stacey is right, it seems so unfair. As far as calling him on it goes, I'd definitely be tempted. Maybe you're right, maybe he is used to be bossed around. If that's the case, then there's reason to say "look, I won't tell you what to do so if that's what you want then we're wasting time." At the very least, he may need a wakeup call.
Sadly for the OP, this has nothing to do with him being flakey, forgetful, impolite or anything else for that matter; calling him on it is just a waste of time and energy; men who really are INTO a woman do not forget about a date that they've set up with her. This one clearly isn't as into the OP as she is into him so the only thing that she can do here is stop all contact with him; I personally despise and hate and cannot stand having to chase a man in any, even suble, ways, and won't ever ever do so again as long as I live. I am not single now but should I ever be again, to me a man who really is keen on a woman with phone and push and phone again and beg and flatter and humour and court, 2006 or 1956. He will not need any prodding or chasing or anything at all.
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