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| Sat, 05-20-2006 - 10:13pm |
I am completely and totally FED UP with flakey people...MEN in particular.
How is a woman supposed to find a guy to love and love her when she can't even get a guy to follow through on plans or better yet, even make a freakin' phone call?

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Exactly...and all the men I've dated in the past few years have done this exact thing, so I guess men just don't like me that much.
I did not at all mean to make you feel bad about yourself and I'm very sorry; I'm just trying to save you time and trouble. I lurk on this board and read all your posts as they are consistently informative, well thought out, well written and protray an interesting, kind, well balanced and intelligent person who has a unique talent for writing. I have made the mistake of wondering and waiting and chasing in the past and I am forever warning all of my friends against it. That was all I was trying to do. Him not being keen does not in any way mean that men somehow for some reason don't like you; it just means that this particular one is a waste of your time and the one who will be smitten by you is on his way.
I disagree. People don't change who they are based on who they are dating. He is who he is. A woman who is right for this guy would be ok with his flakiness.
I also think that sometimes, people just have lapses and behave out of character, and this *could* be one of those times (although I think it's more likely in this situation that this is who he is). Calling him on it, seeing if he apologizes sincerely, and giving him ONE more chance to show he's not really a flake wouldn't be a bad thing, IMO. But if he did something like this more than once, then he's a flake, and therefor not right for Shy, who doesn't want a flake ;-).
Some women would see the behavior you say you want in a man as overwhelming and overly needy. But that's ok...you want what you want, and a man who is right for you would behave that way. It all comes down to what's right for each person.
Sheri
>People don't change who they are based on who
>they are dating. He is who he is. A woman who
>is right for this guy would be ok with his flakiness.
I don't think so. What do you mean by "right" - A woman that is desperate and dysfunctional? Why would any woman want to be bothered with a moron that forgets a date?
I didn't say she would be healthy, Hal ;-)! Being right for each other just means they can live with each other's issues...it has nothing to do with healthy!
And some people really are just laid back about that kind of thing...not too many, and his dating pool is going to be pretty small, but that's his issue. If he wants to change that part of his personality to increase his chances of meeting someone who's right for him, then he'll do that. But merely liking someone isn't going to cause that change overnight. He'll probably have to have a number of women stop seeing him before the penny drops and he does something to change.
Sheri
I tend to also give second chances.
Oh, I had to laugh at the "I fell asleep" excuse...I've gotten that more than a few times and yes, it does seem to be the default!!! How do these men LIVE their lives, falling asleep with no rhyme or reason? Do they do it at work, too ;-)????
Sheri
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