Sulking

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sulking
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 6:39pm

I have a crush on a girl in my class. I talked to her several times and I know that she sees nothing in me, but thinking of what I like about her (she's kind, charming, pretty too), I decided that I had to try. So I called her and asked her out. She said that she was not interested in being friend with me and that she did not mean to give me any wrong impression. Then I told her that she did not give me any wrong impression and that I know that she is not interested and that I decided to try anyway.

I am not sure if I am reading too much into this: At first she said that she was not interested in being friend with me, but at the end said that having coffee together is okay although nothing is going to happen. Maybe I heard wrong out of wishful thinking, but if she meant it, I am more than happy to take that.

I never asked her but I think she has a boyfriend. When I was calling her, a guy picked up the phone and the way they were giggling with each other seems to me that they are boyfriend and girlfriend. Anyway, if she would have coffee with me and if I could make some good impression--who knows, if her situatin changes, I will still have a chance. I never told her what I like about her and at this point, it does not seem appropriate to volunteer such information. Right now, I just can't wait to see her again and to make sure if she would go to have coffee with me. Thanks for listening.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: akt226
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 6:47pm
Just let it go..........
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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: akt226
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 9:38am

I realize you like the girl and all but have enough self-respect to know when to say "forget this" and walk away from the whole thing. Nothing is more unattractive than a guy who hangs around taking whatever table scraps from a girl that he can get. It doesn't endear a guy to us - it makes us look down at you and pity you.

I'm sure she's wonderful but there are other girls out there. She's not the only fish in the sea.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: akt226
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 10:24am
I know that it is pathetic to hang around like this. That is why I am wondering if I am thinking too much when she said that having coffee is okay. Anyway, it is not healthy for me to dwell on her, so whether she offers friendship or not, I know that I should look for someone else. I'll just make sure that whenever I speak to her, I'll keep everything short and pleasant.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: akt226
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 10:48am

First of all, I have to say that it takes an awful lot of guts to call up a girl and ask her out when you're pretty sure you're going to get rejected.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: akt226
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 5:49pm
Thanks for remembering me! I am a student and I am finishing up my last semester. I guess I only come here when I want to sulk, but thanks for listening.
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Registered: 10-14-2005
In reply to: akt226
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 1:05am
I agree, I think it's great that you had the guts to ask her out. That's very hard to do. I guess the best thing to do now is to move on to the next girl! :) By the way, thanks for replying back to my post. I think you have a very good point about having to show your fun/hot/sexy side. It's difficult because I never acted that way around guys. I never really flirt and I just talk to them in a causal friend like way. I think to it's one of those things that gets easier as you try it more.
P.S. I just noticed that you're majoring in econ, me too!