Summertime: Bad for Dating?

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Summertime: Bad for Dating?
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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 8:45am

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had this experience. Do you find it harder to try and date and meet someone in the summertime?

For the past 3 years I've been single, I find dating seems to dry up in the summertime. Any dates I get, we seem to go out once and I usually don't hear from them again for weeks or months. Seems like most men I've come across are too busy hanging with friends or vacationing to give me much time. As if, I've gone out with 3 different guys in the past month and none have called for a 2nd date.

Meanwhile, in the winter or other seasons, I seem to date much easier and get more dates.

Seems like every summer, the men are too busy or something. Any thoughts?

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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 11:07am

I've noticed that too.

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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 11:13am

Same here. I seem to be able to meet more men and retain their interest better in fall and winter but soon as spring hits, they begin to disappear and I find it much harder to get dates during the summer. You'd think that would be the prime times to date but it seems prime times for playing the field.

I guess.

What do I know?

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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 5:39pm
Actually, it's the opposite for me. I'm out more - walking, in the sun, going to BBQs, whatever - and I seem to have more opportunities to meet people in the summer. People also tend to be in a better mood because it's warm, and therefore more approachable.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 10:02pm

Hey!
I definitely think that there's a correlation between Summertime and fewer dates. I also think there's a correlation with Summertime and MORE dates! LOL! It just kinda depends. As you know, nice weather tends to bring people out. This means that there are more single people to meet when they're out and about. If you're a single man or woman, you're probably dating several people until you find someone who you feel is relationship-worthy. In essence, people tend to have more options in the Summertime. Honestly, since you've experienced this, maybe you should just try (maybe you already have) going out to have fun...no expectations. If you meet someone who you feel you really have a mutual connection with, then chances are you'll have multiple dates as opposed to one date then he goes ghost on you. Hope this makes sense. It's just my perspective on it.

Mali




Edited 6/29/2007 10:04 pm ET by mali2579
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 9:50am
In Miami it is always summer. (-: So summer is always best. lol
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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 11:15pm
I agree with you I have been single for the past 10 years and haven't had any dates and am back in the dating scene again and I notice that now that its hard to meet anyone in the summertime with everyones vacations ect. Maybe fall will be better
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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 11:25pm

Yeah, I think the vacation aspect really comes into play because a lot of the guys I'm meeting are going away on vacation or out of town most weekends, leaving little time to get together.

Oh well. Maybe fall will be better. Meanwhile, its time for me to go on vacation.