Surprise help

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Surprise help
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Tue, 07-02-2013 - 8:05am

I know so many single women homeowners, myself included, who say, "I just wish there were someone who could help me with things. It would be wonderful for someone else to mow the lawn or take the car in for an oil change."

I was out working in my yard in a marathon session of ligustrum shaping this Sunday. A man in his 40s bought the house next door and has been sporadically fixing it up for the last two years, and we talk about house stuff when we're both out working. He was working on his yard too and came over to chat (any excuse to take a break! It's soooo hot right now). He offered to help with the ligustrums, but by then I was pretty much done. He noticed the debris on my roof. In the past, I have hired people to come blow my roof off, as I am too scared to climb on my roof. He went back to his yard for a while, then came back over and offered to blow my roof off! WOW! 

He did a great job and was very careful on my old roof. I was just thrilled. This saved me some bucks. But more than that, it was just so nice for someone to help me, that it wasn't just me working on the house, that he wasn't someone I hired. He was just being a (really) good neighbor. He has actually helped me before with some very small things--but climbing up on someone's roof is huge. And I have other neighbors who have helped me, but this was just so wonderful because I didn't even ask him to do this. He just saw something that needed to be done, knows I live alone, and offered to do it.

Obviously I wish I had a husband who would do these things, or at least call someone to come do them. But I will take these acts of generosity and help any time. It makes me feel less alone in the world.

And no, there isn't an attraction there. He may actually be in his late thirties. But it would be the final irony to have a guy move in next door that I became involved with, wouldn't it? Of course, I usually look absolutely hideous when I'm out working in my yard. 

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 11:50pm

Ahhh, this post gives me faith :)

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 4:28pm

I have to say that was very kind of him to do that for you!  As we say here in the South, "that boy was raised right."  Most neighbors this day in age don't speak to each other which I think is a shame.  I've lived in my place for about two months now & the only neighbors that introduced themselves to me were the married couple who live to the left of me.  My neighbor lady on the other hand, only words she has ever mentioned was asking my father to move his truck off the sidewalk so she could walk on it to get to her side.  That just floored me.  Good thing I've never seen her in passing.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 2:53pm

I know what you mean.  I have a nice family living next door--they are from Bulgaria.  It's a married couple with the parents of one of them and their kids.  The couple is younger than I am.  One day I had bought a new mail box because my old one broke and it's attached to the porch.  I figured that the new one looked the same so I could just go out & screw in the new one in the same holes--of course then the holes didn't match up.  The guy & the father were outside working on something.  They are very mechanical and fix up motor bikes and stuff like that.  So I just asked if I could borrow a drill.  Instead the guy came over and did it for me and he said "any time you need something fixed, just come over."  Another time when I had a Dodge Caravan I was trying to replace a headlight and it was an unbelievably complicated process--why can't they make it so you can just stick in a new lightbulb, but no, you have to take out the whole contraption, so I was out there studying the manual and the guy's brother was over visiting for a while & he ended up doing it.  I think there's something to a woman standing around looking helpless that makes guys want to help too.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:49pm

Sorry I swear I only hit reply once. I don't know why it posted multiple times.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:15pm

I would make him a pie and take it over there. : )

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:15pm

I would make him a pie and take it over there. : )

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:15pm

I would make him a pie and take it over there. : )

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:15pm

I would make him a pie and take it over there. : )

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 11:51am

Karma - you get what you give.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 11:34am

Can you send him my way?