Swallowing my pride

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Swallowing my pride
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:49pm

I swore I'd never put a profile (err...excuse me, "portrait") back up on match.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:37pm

"That innocent little sentence at the bottom of your post summarizes why a good majority of older (never married) singles are still single. No sparks. I guess some will wait for the sparks till life passes them by."

Excuse me? You do not know anything.

The reason I am single is because I did not say "yes"...at least three times. NOT because I did not feel sparks. I have had love in my life many times over. Maybe one or two could have gone to marriage, I don't know, but I've had love and I know what it is. I am very proud of the love I have felt in my life.

I also know if I don't feel attracted to him it won't go anywhere. I've tried that before and it ended up hurting him and I more...so I know better. That decision was not based on some fairy tale wish, it's from experience. There is no point going further unless you feel something within.

Me thinks one should not say things they know nothing about.

Soliel
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Registered: 09-08-2007
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:39pm
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Edited 9/8/2007 10:02 pm ET by onerudeboy
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Registered: 08-02-2007
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:44pm
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Edited 9/8/2007 10:21 pm ET by capegirardeau
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Registered: 08-29-2006
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 2:02am
Hello Shy,
Well, i actually think online dating is more popular than ever, especially in my demographic (single mom over 30). Its actually the only way i get to "meet" men. I have few friends, rarely go out to bars or clubs and don't meet men during my day to day life. Therefore, Im currently on POF and have been off and on it for the past year. Yes, initially i did get alot of e-mails. I posted some pictures that were taken in a photo studio and that are very nice. However, the quality of men that were responding were definitely not my type. This got me very discouraged. Therefore, i decided to take matters into my own hands and take my pix off and just write to those who i thought were attractive. Yes some have responded, some have not, and some have ghosted on me. Though i still haven't gone on a second date with any of the guys on POF,i feel better about doing the picking and choosing. Yes when it gets too be too depressing i take my profile off for a couple of weeks/months. Usually after my brief hiatus i come back and there are a whole bunch of hotties that have been added. Dont get discouraged. At least your out there giving it a shot. Your not alone...take care!
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Registered: 08-29-2006
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 2:22am
So true!!!! I talked to this guy on Thursday who said that he's "picky", which for me is code for always looking for bigger and better, a MODEL type. I nexted him! Im a very good looking woman with alot too offer, but for "picky" guys even breathing the wrong way is a turn off!
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Registered: 01-26-2006
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:17am
To me it seems like a different mentality; more men don't really care whether or not they find someone to settle down with at any given time. I know some do, but I feel like a lot more men than women are content with rolling with the punches.

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