Tactful honesty
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Tactful honesty
| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:06pm |
I know I subject myself to this madness, so I can't complain about what I get, but SHEESH!!
So I'm online last night, killing time till I'm tired and a guy pops up and wants to chat.

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I think it depends on how well I know the person and how well they know me. If it is a good friend or a co-worker, just tell me the cold hard truth. Especially, if it is related to them having a conflict with me. The sooner we bring it to the table, the faster we can get the problem solved. I can't stand passive-aggressive behavior.
But with a guy I barely know, I would just say the nice tactful white lie regardless of his preference. But then again, he didn't ask for details and "You are not that interested". You are not obligated to tell him why. So you are telling the truth. Just not the WHOLE truth.
Hi shy,
>I tell him that sometimes, it's an issue of the
>truth being just plain too mean to say outloud.
I agree but there have been times when I have been interrogated after a break-up. I think people want the truth (or at least a reason) so that their imagination doesn't run wild. I would give them a "nice" reason rather than just say "we are not a match".
eg/ If I was dating you, I would say "I don't like the way you wear your hair" rather than "you are too uncool for me" because I know that would absolutely devastate you.
As for the "slow" man, perhaps you should say "We think differently and I know this will cause problems between us"
Just curious...why'd you give him your #
Um...ok.
I was kidding in my post about going "baaa"....don't do that.
I was interested until I talked to him.
Exactly! I don't feel like I'm obligated to tell him anything at all.
I wouldn't believe you.
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