Taking care of yourself

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Taking care of yourself
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:33am

I'm on a new path! I've decided to focus exclusively on taking care of myself for the next 90 days.

That means I am NOT going to fuss over or tolerate any less-than-optimally kind and attentive behavior from men.

I am NOT going to tolerate my grown daughter taking from me without thought or respect for my resources

I am going to take care of my body and stop procrastinating on seeing an allergy doctor at last (I've been holding off for years!)

I am going to change my hair color - just for fun

I am going to spend time only with people I enjoy

And whatever else I come up with.


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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 12:02pm

Okay and okay but I do disagree with the daughter part.. You really have to sort of be there for her and take care of her.. Just set some boundaries on it..

Marina;; I think (I could be wrong).. that you dont set enough boundaries with men, dd, friends,,etc.etc.. It can be done although very challenging. Hey; I can barely do it myself when I have my mom, sis, son, friends, pulling me in all directions all the time.

I would though concentrate first on health and yourself and then your DD...

I always tell everyone that the only people that I am totally 100% responsible for are me and my son and that is it..

All others come after.

and none of this is selfish.. because the only person who you have to be accountable for is YOU but you know that already right??

PS.. Last year when I was staying at a friends house I thought I was going to concentrate on just me.. I thought I could bake , visit different restaurants,read alot, watch movies, try new recipes, take long walks, go sightseeing around.. That lasted about a month until reality set in.. (sorry))

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 12:09pm

I think it's a good plan.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 1:21pm

I read somewhere that it does take ninety days to make a change that sticks.

Congrats on making that commitment marina.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:38pm

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:43pm

Good for you!!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 10:45pm

I can't believe you two said that about dying hair!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:15pm
I've never died my hair with permanent color. I've tried the temporary stuff, but mine is so dark that making it lighter means something harsher. I have highlighted it, but that takes so much upkeep. I did cut about three inches off on Sunday and had her cut the layers right again. Exactly three people have noticed, and one was a nine year old.

By the way, when I saw the title- taking care of yourself- I was expecting a much different topic!
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Registered: 09-12-2005
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:27pm

Good resolution Marina ! You've been through so much with these crazy men you dated lol.

I think I've been pretty much focusing on myself in these past months. I didn't dye my hair because I love my color, but I added bangs !

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Registered: 04-15-2009
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 1:07am
I wish I didn't have to color my hair like you Shy, I had never even experimented until I felt I had to at age 25 when the gray became prominent. But now that I have to, I have experimented with colors lighter or redder browns. It can be interesting. It should really be about what is flattering to your skin tone. I just love the look of ash colors just not on me. I say if anyone experiments with color, just focus on what works for your skin tone, not what's currently favored by men or the fashion industry. How many gorgeous brunettes are out there that have the perfect color while others just look ridiculous as blondes?
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 4:45pm

2Chicks-Seal-of-Approval240.jpgYes take good care of yourself

Remember chicken soup!