Temporarily married?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Temporarily married?
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Sat, 10-01-2011 - 12:19pm
Did anyone else read about this?

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/i-do-for-now-mexico-city-considers-temporary-marriages-2573006/;_ylt=AvwwFQECiSrhwuy0895POduBbqU5

Basically, Mexico City is considering allowing people to marry for two years at a time, with the option to renew. There would be a prenup and agreements beforehand on how to handle custody, etc.

I don't know how I feel about it. On one hand, I can see how it would encourage more people to get married knowing there would be less hassle if it didn't work. Then, it might make them appreciate it more if they have to consciously make the decision to stay every two years. On the other hand, it seems to completely go against the concept of marriage being a lifelong commitment.

What do you think?

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 10-01-2011 - 5:30pm
Wow. Just. Wow. I agree, it might make people appreciate it more, and perhaps even work harder at it. On the other hand, I think, why even bother? Why not just live together? I kind of feel the same way about this as I do pre-nups. I think it's kind of silly, really. I guess I have an all or nothing attitude regarding the sanctity of marriage. If there are going to be stipulations, I'd rather pass.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-01-2011 - 8:42pm

I did hear about the temp. marriages in Iran before which basically seems to me to get around having sex if you're not married.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 8:35pm

Musiclover-

Hi. So, you know about the mut'aa, temporary marriages ranging from 1 hour to ten years, recognized by Shiite Islam. You are well-informed.

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I don't think a time limit on a marriage

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 11:49pm

Yea!

dragowoman

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Mon, 10-03-2011 - 8:54pm
I think a temporary marriage would just have more couples entering into it far less seriously and I fail to see how that is a good thing. If you aren't ready to make a lifelong commitment then don't get married. There's no rule that says we have to get married nor is there a deadline that we have to meet.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 9:54pm

That's why I think that it's good to have something like a "domestic partner" law.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:20pm

Music:

dragowoman

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 11:28pm
I agree with you, LBW, but I also think that it would be nice to have to consciously choose to be together every so often instead of just sticking together because of the financial hardship. Maybe if there weren't so many financial benefits to being and staying married, more people would do it for the right reasons and not the wrong ones.
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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 1:43am
shywon wrote:
I agree with you, LBW, but I also think that it would be nice to have to consciously choose to be together every so often instead of just sticking together because of the financial hardship. Maybe if there weren't so many financial benefits to being and staying married, more people would do it for the right reasons and not the wrong ones.

I guess I figured this was why married couples celebrated anniversaries and sometimes renewed their vows... as a means of reiterating that they still choose to be together.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 8:12am

But not all of them do.

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