Terrible couple weeks...defeated

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Terrible couple weeks...defeated
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Tue, 02-25-2014 - 7:40pm

It is so hard being a single woman owning a home.  Or at least my home.  My ex built a 1000 sf addition onto our home.  When he left I bought him out and kept the house for many reasons that made perfect sense at the time.  The addition was basically just the shell.  I have been trying for 5 years to get it finished, a little bit here and there and it is almost done.  But other problems keep interfering with the progress.  The garage keeps flooding so first I had to spend money on getting drainage put in.....still floods.  Then the driveway was a mess so I needed that done.  Then a shut off valve blew in the main bathroom and did a lot of damage.  Then there was the roof. The heating & air aren't big enough for the addition so it's cold in the winter & hot in the summer....more money needed that I don't have. And now a bursted water line from the cold weather.  That happened the 13th of this month....my valentines gift, lol. Then I go to work on VDay morning & MB gave me some chocolates and a card, which actually upset me because there he went again being overly nice in a very abnormal "friend" way. At least I felt it was.  I sure as heck don't buy my girlfriends Valentines presents and I almost felt it was a pity gift because I don't have a boyfriend. Needless to say I haven't been in the greatest of moods which  had MB sort of ticked off at me because I wouldn't tell him what was wrong. I told him that I had GIRLFRIENDS to cry and vent to and he shouldn't worry about it..... ticked him off even more but I don't care, he's over it now anyway. Then there is the stupid OLD crap that I keep putting myself through.  Some days I just don't know how much more I can take. So now I can't wash clothes or even dry them because the contractors have taken over the dryers 220 line for their stuff. I had to use a half day vacation for the demoltion/water crew this morning and probably will have to tomorrow again to meet with the plumber.  Just what I want to do....waste my vacation on crap like this!  But we don't have personal or sick days so I don't have a choice.  And then there is my 18 year old son but that is a whole other story!  I really do just feel defeated at life in general. Times like this is when I realize how nice it was when I had a man that I could share not only the joys with but the burdens too. Ughhh, wish I knew what I wanted to do when I grow up, lol. But really?  Why does everything in life have to be so darn hard?

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Sat, 03-01-2014 - 10:35am

My brother-in-law works for Siemens in North Carolina.  I know that his Siemens counterparts in Germany have far more generous benefits than he does.  I think one of the worst mistakes we made in the US is linking health insurance to employment.

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sat, 03-01-2014 - 5:45pm

As a person who is losing her job next month, I couldn't agree more!  I was unemployed (well, technically very underemployed) for 5 months in 2012, and did qualify for state subsidized health insurance.  Now I am about to be unemployed again because the company I work for lost a very large contract, and am facing some of these same issues.

Many of my coworkers are on their husband's health insurace, so they can afford to look at positions without benefits, but I can't do that.  (These don't typically pay enough to make it worth buying your own insurance.)

To the OP, sorry about all your house troubles!  Those are not fun to deal with.  I rent currently, but used to own, and had a few nightmares of my own.  Hang in there-

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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 8:21pm

Buckeyegold,

I had lots of house problem too the biggest whammy was the roof. I had the money to fix it but it was a bitter spill to swallow. I should have had a roof inspection when I bouthg the house but the reality distincly said from looking from the ground I didn't need it. I could have sued here but too much aggravation.

Lots of other problems too but they have all been fixed. Currently I have a couple of minor ones but I don't feel like addressing them. But I know what you mean about having emergency, I had a couple of leaks in the past and it wasn't fun. I sympathize with you. 

 

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Registered: 03-15-2014
Sun, 03-16-2014 - 1:21am

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