Is There No Justice in Love?
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| Sat, 09-29-2007 - 8:15am |
Forgive me for sounding a bit negative but I was having dinner with a friend I hadn't seen in awhile and we were going over our recent dating experiences again and it always amazes me that we've had the same experiences and despite all our efforts, we find ourselves seemingliy in the same state: still single, no progress, nothing substantial on the horizon.
So I've been thinking about this and it really bugs me but I feel like there is no justive when it comes to love. I used to believe in karma and you get what you deserve but I'm finding that that really isn't true.
Examples. Both she and I were both in long-term relationships to guys we were totaly devoted to. Both cheated and disrepected us and we ended the relationships. 3 years later, you'd think if there was a justice, those a**holes would be sitting around miserable and alone but no, they both got into serious relationships right after us and hers moved in with the girl he cheated with and mine got married. We've both remained single and can't find ONE guy that has wanted a relationship with us.
Same issue with a co-worker. She was in a long-term relationship with her son's father for 10 years. He used and abused her, physicall beating her and throwing her out, even when she was pregnant. He's turned out to be an awful father and manipulator. One would believe that he'd get his "just desserts" eventualy but instead,

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Great post sassafras!
Smile,
Deirdre
I have thought the same thing for quite
My rule-of-thumb is not to get involved with anyone who is in a relationship or just out of a relationship. This includes women who are separated and not divorced or been out for 6 months or under. I want a long term, committed relationship and know for each false start, the older I get when it ends and for me to start over again.
I know there are no guarantees but I look to learn and be wiser from all my past relationships. I apply that wisdom as well as work on myself to be more self aware and heal what I need to heal.
I pay attention to the patterns of relationships in my life and the type of woman I attract. My pattern of women were ones who are resentful of men (from my Mother) and I see as an indicator of my spiritual health are the people I attract in my life. I feel that I'm getting better and better each person I meet (romantic and otherwise).
I offer my experience, perspective and views to you as a way of shifting things in your life.
Mark
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