Is there something wrong with me??
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Is there something wrong with me??
| Tue, 06-10-2003 - 7:49pm |
I just don't even know what to do anymore. I am 18 and have never been asked out for a date. I have a bunch of guy friends and they always tell me that I am pretty, have a good sense of humor etc. but I have never been asked out by a guy. Am I pathetic or what? I just graduated from high school this past Sunday, June 8th and will be starting college in the fall where I will be majoring in nursing so that I can become a RN.
I just feel so down right now. All of my friends are dating and have been dating someone for a while now, I am the only one who is not. I just want to have that special guy in my life, one who I can cuddle up with at night while watching a movie, and one to share and do all of those things that couples do. I just feel like I am missing out on so much and I don't know why guys won't ask me out. I am hoping if I don't find anyone special this summer that hopefully once I start college in the fall that I will.
You all are probably sick of listening to me already but I just wish I had that special guy in my life, I feel like I am missing out on so much because I have never dated, and I am already 18, will be 19 in a few months. I just feel pathetic, I mean, I am probably the only 18 year old that has never dated before. I just don't understand why either, guys won't ask me out but yet they love me and love sharing their deepest secrets with me and always call on me when they need someone to listen to them. Anyone else feel really down right now because you don't have "that guy" in your life right now or am I the only one?
I just feel so down right now. All of my friends are dating and have been dating someone for a while now, I am the only one who is not. I just want to have that special guy in my life, one who I can cuddle up with at night while watching a movie, and one to share and do all of those things that couples do. I just feel like I am missing out on so much and I don't know why guys won't ask me out. I am hoping if I don't find anyone special this summer that hopefully once I start college in the fall that I will.
You all are probably sick of listening to me already but I just wish I had that special guy in my life, I feel like I am missing out on so much because I have never dated, and I am already 18, will be 19 in a few months. I just feel pathetic, I mean, I am probably the only 18 year old that has never dated before. I just don't understand why either, guys won't ask me out but yet they love me and love sharing their deepest secrets with me and always call on me when they need someone to listen to them. Anyone else feel really down right now because you don't have "that guy" in your life right now or am I the only one?
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The old saying is that you will find something when you least expect it, but the more you try and find it, it won't happen. I found too that college was just as bad. Everyone around me had boyfriends, and then there was me with nothing. Now I realize that I was just selective. Most of the girls that had boyfriends in college didn't have really sound relationships, and all the guys (and most of the girls) wanted was a good time, if you know what I mean. College is a time of finding yourself, and a lot of people aren't ready to settle down and find that right one just yet. Mind you, there are people that meet the man/woman of their dreams in college too. It all boils down to the person, either you are meant to be together or you are not.
I'm 24, and have been single for almost two years now, and frankly, I don't care. I would rather be single right now and concentrate on me, my school, and my career than have to put a lot of effort into a relationship. I know that sounds selfish, but to me, finding a boyfriend isn't that high on the priority list. Don't get me wrong, it used to be right up there at #1, but after I found out I was rushing things in relationships. I'd meet a guy, and like a week after, I was questioning where the relationship was going. I wanted to be exclusive to that guy, and I wanted the same commitment from him. I think I scared a lot of guys off this way!
My advice to you, and it may sound hard to do, is just be you. Do what you like to do, get involved, and let everything else fall in place. Don't worry about your friends and what they say. I'm a big believer in destiny, and that what is meant to be will be. You will find that special someone, but these things take time!
Hope this helps!
Victoria
I know you're feeling down, and probably lonely, right? That's ok, it's totally normal to wish to have someone in your life to share yourself with and your special moments, and there is NOTHING wrong with you for wanting that. My question, though, is: when was the last time YOU asked a guy out? It's definately a 2 way street when it somes to dating, and maybe guys are picking up a subliminal "she's not interested in anyone" sign because you don't go after the guys who interest you? If no one really IS interesting you, then why would you want them to ask you out anyway?
About your male friends, love and cherish these guys who feel close enough to you to share with you; they're hard to find!!! Plus, when you do start dating, their advice and help will be immeasurable.
{{{Huggles}}}
I could have written that same thing myself.
I am 24 and have never been in a long term relationship. I have been busy with college, moving to a new city (where I did know some people from college, but have found I grew apart from some friends), adjusting and finding a niche here and deciding what I want to do as a career and it has crossed my mind that "Hey, all my friends are always dating," but I don't obsess over it for some reason....I've just been too involved in other things to let that be my priority.