They just assume...

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Registered: 07-16-2001
They just assume...
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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 9:52pm
Sometimes the things people assume about us because we're single really bug me! What is the most annoying thing someone has assumed about you, just because you're single?

I probably didn't react the best today to one. I hate it when people assume I can't cook because I don't have a family. Today was a food day at school. After my coworker tasted my meatballs, she commented, "You're becoming quite the cook." I probably just should have said thanks, but I've been cooking since I was ten. So I just said that I always have been. She was miffed. But she's like that. Everyone always assumes I just don't cook because there isn't a man in my house! It's annoying.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:39pm

I travel to Europe a lot, always alone, and because I learned Italian as an adult, people usually assume that I go to Italy to have lots of sex with various Italian men.

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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:55pm

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 11:34pm
Marina- the promiscuous one really bothers me. Yes, I can flirt with every guy I want and don't have a jealous guy breathing down my throat. That doesn't mean I choose to, and it doesn't mean I'll sleep with the ones I do flirt with. I'm sure those same people would be upset if we assumed they weren't having sex just because they are married (because that's the myth, right?)

CB- the gay one came to mind, too. Given what Marina said, I suppose we can't win either way, huh? Either we're easy if we flirt or gay if we don't.
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Thu, 01-26-2012 - 1:42am

I'm not even talking about flirting!

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 8:12am

Most days, I'm amazed at the stupid things some people say!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 10:37am

This hasn't happened to me personally but when you're divorced then it seems to some married women that they need to beware that you are going to hit on their DHs.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 10:42am

The most annoying is women who think I'm trying too hard to meet someone. Their sage advice: "You'll meet him when you stop looking/least expect it/in an unusual, surprising way."

But then, I've also been advised that I just "need to get out there." Where, might I ask, is "out there"?

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 12:59pm
Music, I've definitely encountered that one. The other thing I hate is when the men think their wives are going to divorce them just because they've spent time with a single woman. Like my girlfriends would think my life is so wonderful they'd want to leave their guy!
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Registered: 04-15-2009
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 3:32pm

Yeah, its so easy for them to say "need to get out there" when most of them married their high school boyfriends or had a man just fall in their laps.

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Thu, 01-26-2012 - 3:59pm

That is so silly...I'm glad you schooled her, ha-ha.

One of my dearest and closest friends to this day swears I'm a lesbian. True, I'm not girly and I did hook up with a couple of girls back in the day but that doesn't make me a lesbian. Besides, if I were, I'd have no reason to hide it.

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