They just assume...

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
They just assume...
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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 9:52pm
Sometimes the things people assume about us because we're single really bug me! What is the most annoying thing someone has assumed about you, just because you're single?

I probably didn't react the best today to one. I hate it when people assume I can't cook because I don't have a family. Today was a food day at school. After my coworker tasted my meatballs, she commented, "You're becoming quite the cook." I probably just should have said thanks, but I've been cooking since I was ten. So I just said that I always have been. She was miffed. But she's like that. Everyone always assumes I just don't cook because there isn't a man in my house! It's annoying.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 6:03pm

I think this is a factor of IQ, which we rarely discuss on this board. But there are so many, many people the wrong slope of the bell curve, if you ask me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 6:06pm

The weirdest thing about that, of course, is that if I know their husbands, or I've listened to them complain about them, I'm FAR more likely to think "What the HELL are you doing with him?" anyway!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 6:07pm

I've heard that all the eligible, handsome, tall, kind, affluent human males over 30 and under 60 are now living on Mars. Perhaps that's what they mean by "out there"?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 6:46pm

I can handle kids who are a little slower.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 7:56pm

I noticed a phenomenon because I have a group of girlfriends from high school who meets 1-2x a year for dinner.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 1:49am
Most of the women I know with kids are that way. I've read plenty of research that says you should put your marriage/husband before kids to make it last, but apparently the majority of people reading that research are single.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 10:59am

Ironically though these are people who have been married 30 yrs or so and very unlikely they will end up divorced.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 11:23am

Yes! I've noticed the same thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 4:39pm

No I don't think this works if you actually hate your spouse or if he's abusive or for people who are having affairs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2012
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 3:40pm

Excellent thread! Some people really assume there is something wrong with us for being single, that there must be a reason for it other than that we have not met the right one yet. The absolute worst for me must be the couple of persons who have asked if I am a lesbian. I mean, come on! Nothing wrong with that at all, but if I were, I would definitely have let people know many years ago! Only a few weeks ago a colleague asked me if I was sure I am not lesbian. I replied that I have always liked guys, but never had much luck with them. Yes, I have always been slightly "tomboyish" in a way, but still not lesbian.... All this while being on the train, total strangers probably listening!