Things to enjoy solo

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Things to enjoy solo
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Wed, 04-11-2007 - 4:27pm
I am separating from my husband for a while after being married for several years. Most of my friends are married and I'm having problems finding people to go out and do things with. I'd like to find some social groups to join or something like a book club. I also wondered, is it weird to go to a movie theater by yourself? Or to dinner by yourself? Would people look at me in a strange way if I was alone? I've already been going to the park for walks by myself, but I'm bored with that.

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Sat, 04-14-2007 - 8:41am

There is nothing weird about going solo to the movies, dining, shopping, visiting museums, going on a trip, etc. It seems from your questions that you feel uncomfortable doing things alone and are concerned about how you "look" to the rest of the world.

The rest of the world is not your world. And remember, the majority of people are more concerned about themselves....not what everyone else is doing.

Not sure if you are a church-goer, but many churches have singles groups that participate in social activies. As far as a book group, your local library is an excellent resource for that.

Our county's recreation department offers day trips or longer excursions that anyone can participate in...and you don't need to have a traveling companion to join. And you would meet all kinds of interesting people and make new friends.

Each of us is different, and I respect everyone's views, opinions and personal needs. I for one, love doing things alone, as well as being with friends.

You have the desire to make new friends, and I have no doubt that you will.

Best of luck!

Callie

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Sat, 04-14-2007 - 9:10pm

I'm pretty comfortable doing things on my own and have done many of the suggestions through these posts.

Going to plays or concerts can be really good solo - because you're buying one ticket, you can often get really good seats. I've been able to get dead centre, front row of concerts on the day of the concert before! I do find it much easier to do when I'm travelling though. There's not the psycological 'I'm in my home town, I really should have friends to do this with'.

I also do the package tour thing. I just ask them to buddy me up with someone else who is travelling solo, so you get the twin price. You're only sharing a room with a stranger for a couple of weeks, and you do activities as you choose.

Another good place for meeting people and making friends is the local laudromat! before marrying my father, my step-mother found she missed out on all the local single goings-on as she washed at home - she found out just before she moved to live with my father. Apparently in the town she lived, the laudromat crowd would get together regularly for dinners and the like. Dinner was not always going out either. They'd do a roast night at someone's home - much easier to cook a roast for many than one.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sat, 04-14-2007 - 10:39pm
Im not single but we're LDR and I've been living alone for 2 years now as I've worked on my degree. I've gone to dinner alone, even for a nice meal. I took a book with me and treated myself since I dont get to cook very good meals. I've also been shopping alone, to the coffee shops alone, to the movies, and sight-seeing alone. I've been to the bar alone too, even though thats a place a lot of women are not comfortable going alone. I dont recommend that unless you have a thick skin, a serious appearance of confidence (so the fools in the room leave you alone) and feel safe.

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Mon, 04-16-2007 - 10:58am
One of my favorite things to do alone is drive around and shoot scenic photography.

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 1:48am

I thought of this thread tonight as I was sitting in the 4th row for the Cowboy Junkies concert--by myself. I couldn't find anyone to go with me and I love them, so I found a great last minute ticket online last night and just decided to go for it. It was a great show as always and I'm glad I went.

I do a lot of things alone--I travel by myself a lot for work because it's hard to find people who can take the time off and go with me, so I'm used to eating out at good restaurants alone. I guess I figure it's better to do things alone than not do them at all...

Sheri

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