Things you don't want him to know..

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Things you don't want him to know..
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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 12:56pm

Over to the right side, there's a link to a list- Ten Things Guys Don't Want You to Know- http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathethinks/0,,askmen_8c5wq0fh,00.html


I'd be pretty upset if a guy I was dating followed some of those "rules", but I also wondered if there's a similar list for women.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 1:23pm

* casual relationships (partners that are still in my circle of friends)
I dont want my BF to overanalyse everything I say to an Ex or a potential BF.

* problems with family memebers

Unfortunately for the number!! it is out there now I cant take it back! He knows I ve got v. few guys but he also knows I m working on it. I need to move to the 2 digit zone :)

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:41pm

Things I don't want him to know:

- Size matters to me as well, but for me it's height. I prefer not to date guys who are shorter than me - it makes me feel unfeminine.

- I don't want him to meet my family and friends until I know it's exclusive and I'm really into him. Honestly, I'm tired of introducing guys who are not "the one" to the most important people in my life. I feel like they get all excited, only to be let down when, once again, it doesn't work out.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 7:09pm

Size matters - and I will take the wallet, height, and *ahem* usual.

I have panic disorder as a result of a traumatic experience in high school (I was hit by a car while crossing the street and have had anxiety/panic disorder since). It is pretty under control at this point in my life - I have an attack about once per year. It does not effect my life too much and I don't want any attached stigmas, thanks.

My number. Also, how many of my current male friends were once boyfriends.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 10:50am

  • That I take antidepressants - a lot of guys automatically assume that just because a girl takes Prozac that she must be "psycho."
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:33am

<<- I don't want him to meet my family and friends until I know it's exclusive and I'm really into him. Honestly, I'm tired of introducing guys who are not "the one" to the most important people in my life. I feel like they get all excited, only to be let down when, once again, it doesn't work out.>>

I completely agree. My friends and family give me a hard time about this but unless I'm pretty sure there's a future, I don't bring a guy around a lot. I'm glad to hear others think the same way.

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 12:27pm
If men were completely honest about everything,they would never have a date...A guy is not going to tell a woman he is dating he slept with 40 girls,and goes to strip bars all the time..that is something they all do ...we just have to deal with it.What really gets me is..why do men get angry when women do things?My ex told me he did not go to strip bars because he thinks that is wrong for guy to do in a relationship..needless to say,I did NOT believe him,I am smarter than that,any woman who falls that that is pretty naive,BUT he got mad when I planned on going to a male review with friends.I told him if guys do it,then they should not complain(and LIE)when their girlfriends want to g o out.I swear ....men,they are just not worth even TRYING to develop a relationship with.I keep things casual,and I do not want a guy I am seeing knowing how many I slept with(they either think you are a slut or prude depending on number of guys you had)and I do NOT want a guy knowing what and where me and my friends go out
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:06pm

I so relate to what you say about the OCD. I have intrusive thoughts sometimes - panic disorder and OCD are pretty closely related. Like you, I have a pretty good life and it does not really effect me very often. But who wants to deal with the possible reactions of sharing that information early on? NOt me!

Oh - and I snore too, so I should have added that. :)

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:12pm
I generally don't respond to your posts for fear of losing my temper and violating the TOS and getting kicked off of here. But I just cannot believe that you really think that all men have slept with 40 women and go to strip bars. I am sorry for you if that is the only type of man that you are meeting. While men like sex (so do women, by the way), they are not all equally as obsessed with it and they do not all seek the same outlets which IMO can be very demeaning to women. I hope that you can some day regain trust in men which you say that you no longer have. That's too bad - it's gotta be a lonely life with no real male companionship. While it is perfectly fine for you to post your POV on here, I take issue with you saying that any woman who does not agree with you is naiive. Not only do I not think that it is untrue, I think that it is a very condescending thing to say.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:25pm
Actually, one of the OCD intrusive thoughts I had once was so awful it made me have a panic attack.
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:27pm
do you read anything I post?i DID NOT say all men sleep with 40 women and go to strip bars,it was simply my way of saying men will not always tell you EVERYTHING about them..and no i am SORRY but men will always go to strip joints..I did not believe my ex when he said he thinks it is wrong for men to do that.,when they are involved with a woman he loves.....and he never does it..I laughed in his face and told him don`t bother telling me BS.And don`t give me THREATS either,telling me you don`t reply because you don`t want to get thrown off boards...if you don`t like me,then hit ignore and don`t read ..simple as that..some women on these boards actually agree with me with things and don`t get into a frenzy.GEEZ.As a woman you have ot take care of yourself and not fall for men`s crap and look out for yourself,because you NEVER know

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