To those of you who think I'm a good guy

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To those of you who think I'm a good guy
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:37am

This will change your mind.

First off, I havent called the girl from last weekend back (maybe I will tomorrow or tonight, its just been a crazy weekend)

So, I have never made so many bad choices in one weekend...

Thursday night me and most of my office took a trip out to a minor league baseball game.

Well, long story short, I drank WAYYY too much for a work function, and me and one of my coworkers got kicked out for being too drunk. Then we started making out by the bus (for those of you who remember, this is the girl I was thinking about sleeping with at work about a month and a half ago) Anyway on the bus ride home we started talking about sexual history (I dont remember alot of this convo). This was around many other coworkers... and bosses....

Then a few of us just hung out in the parking lot until 3 to sober up... When I drove home I was NOWHERE near sober. Bad Choices.

friday I moved, so this was fine.

Sat I went to my best friends new apartment, (who is living with my ex). This was actually a fun night where nothing bad happened.

Sunday :-/ - I went out to a bar with a group of friends. Wasnt very drunk at all, and went back to a friends to continue drinking. Well, she likes me, I do not like her like that at all, and she has a boyfriend... Well, we luckly didnt sleep together because of monthly situations. But we came as close as you could... I'm pretty sure she's planning on breaking up with her current boyfriend (who is a great guy) to try for me, and I'm not interested, but I'm pretty sure I'm leading her on like crazy. :-/ I'm a d-bag

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 7:29pm

well... As a 22 year old in a city, drinking tends to be a large part of my social life. My issue is that once I have a few drinks in me, I dont have the control to cut myself off. I actually feel odd being at a bar and not having a drink in my hand... I need to work on that.

BUT good news, guess who called while I was driving home. The girl from the bar last week (lol I DID get her name wrong, its not katie, its Karen :) ) Good thing she called me!

anyway, we're grabbing lunch tomorrow. I think this is my first REAL date... I normally know girls before we start hanging out one on one. Hopefully we hit it off.

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:19pm

Okay- seriously! If you'd only met her in a bar when you were drunk and couldn't even remember her name and then ONLY had one phone conversation with her, HOW could you know if you were interested or not?

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:12pm

ha, wow. I really hit a nerve..

I know we didnt talk about much... all I was saying is its not like I had many feelings really invested in her, so it didnt really matter if anything came from all of it. Yes, she is cute, but thats about all I know about her... So Im not crazy interested. I am very excited about lunch tomorrow, but if nothing comes of it, well then its not a huge deal.

Thats pretty much all I was saying

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 9:41pm

I know exactly what you were saying.

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:37pm
Ok you should definitely know to keep work function drinking to a minimum ! It's just way too risky getting tipsy around bosses because once you're buzzed there is a fine line between being the life of the party and slurring your words. I hope you learned from that experience heh. You should have a conversation with that woman before things blow up in your face. You don't want her leaving someone for you because that will put a huge weight (and an even bigger annoyance) on your shoulders. If you let her know that you're not looking for anything serious then her choices after that won't be your responsibility. But it's your job to be honest. How would you feel if you cared for someone and thought you had no reason to doubt them, only to find out in the end that they had been leading you on "like crazy" ? Everyone does silly things but it's how you handle them that counts.
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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 12:22am

"Thursday night me and most of my office took a trip out to a minor league baseball game.


Well, long story short, I drank WAYYY too much for a work function, and me and one of my coworkers got kicked out for being too drunk. Then we started making out by the bus (for those of you who remember, this is the girl I was thinking about sleeping with at work about a month and a half ago) Anyway on the bus ride home we started talking about sexual history (I dont remember alot of this convo). This was around many other coworkers... and bosses....


Then a few of us just hung out in the parking lot until 3 to sober up... When I drove home I was NOWHERE near sober. Bad Choices."


And you're still employed?!


Makes me want to question your BOSSES' judgement.


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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 1:01am

Its a very young company, the ceo and cfo are around 32-35 and are definatly the "we're still really fun guys, even though we arent in our 20's" type of guys. Everyone there is sort of like that to be honest... Every monday you'll hear quite a few "I was sooo drunk" type stories. Also, its not unheard of to grab 2-3 drinks at lunch, go out after work with a bunch of people on a wed, or even have a few beers at the office on a friday evening.

I'm not sure how much I like this type of work setting to be honest, it sounds good on the surface, but it may be a bit too "casual"

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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 4:56am

"Its a very young company, the ceo and cfo are around 32-35 and are definatly the "we're still really fun guys, even though we arent in our 20's" type of guys."


I'm 35. I'm still appalled.


I do drink occassionally, and I enjoy going out and having a good time. I also used to work with a bunch of people who were the closest things to alcoholics that I had ever seen.


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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 9:30am
I'm not saying that 35 years olds dont normally drink, I'm just saying that these 32-35 year olds feel like they need to prove that they can still drink like a college student.
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Wed, 09-05-2007 - 9:54am

>>well... As a 22 year old in a city, drinking tends to be a large part of my social life. My issue is that once I have a few drinks in me, I dont have the control to cut myself off. I actually feel odd being at a bar and not having a drink in my hand... I need to work on that.

Well, we're by no means attacking you, just concerned. That being said, I'm 23 (in the same city, haha) and I definitely don't drink nearly as much. It's expensive, too! I go out MAYBE once a weekend and have maybe four drinks, depending on what I'm drinking that night (I have a high tolerance for some reason, too). I think it's just an adjustment to being in the "real world."

>>I think this is my first REAL date... I normally know girls before we start hanging out one on one.

Again, so college-y. :) I don't mean that in a bad way, I miss school!