A thought related to "Handling things alone" post

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Registered: 02-26-2011
A thought related to "Handling things alone" post
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Sat, 10-08-2011 - 11:53am

I was musing on this topic this morning.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Since I have been married twice, I guess I do have some experience with this.

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Registered: 07-16-2001

My dad always took care of things around the house.

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Registered: 01-02-2008

wow;; I have a very low tolerance to men who cant or wont do anything around a house or anywhere else for that matter.

My first husband did nothing and when he left home he left me with a house and a baby to take care of.. I mowed the lawn, spackled , painted, fixed shingles and even tore up carpeting in that house, I did hedges and everything else that I could do that I knew how to do.. I was younger though so it was easier in those days.

My second husband although a control freak and nut case is the hardest working man I know.. He did all of the hard work in the house .. He even built rooms and decks and was the carpenter, plumber,handyman, landscaper.. So I am used to men doing hard work.. If he can do it and he is an accountant by trade.. anyone can do it.

My sister sinks was clogged up for a few months.. we cant afford a plumber and if I knew how to do that I would have done it.

Her ex husband is useless and her stupid ex alcholic boyfriend did absolutely nothing around this house. I think my cousin finally fixed it..

I remember one time that I took an automotive class to see if I could learn how to fix cars.. Well? I cant and I have come to realize that men and woman do have their specialties.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I do agree that the way men are raised has something to do w/ it.

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Registered: 10-16-2006

For me, it's not so much about saving money on a handyman or even the convenience of having someone living with me who could handle these things. Through the years I have hired many a tradesman to do things or I have gotten neighbors and friends to help. The thing that gets me more is just not having someone to share my life with--not just sharing chores. But it's also about having someone to face the world with when problems arise (such as a damaged bookcase). Yes, yes, of course I can hire someone, I can handle anything, after all, I have to compete with men in the workplace, I can't just say, "Oh, I can't do that I'm a woman."

But wouldn't it be nice to not have to do every. single. thing. by. yourself.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

It sure would!

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Registered: 03-27-2003

I am not looking for a chore partner but someone who has my back.