Throwing away ex boyfriends

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Throwing away ex boyfriends
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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 7:02pm

Am I the only one that gets a little sentimental with the stuff exes have given me or that reminds me of them?


As I pack, I've been throwing out A LOT of stuff.

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Registered: 11-13-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 8:44pm

---Tell me I'm not alone in my sentimentality!---

Don't you even DARE discard one single thing--buy extra boxes and hire extra movers. You'll expecially want those 'treasures' when you have a husband and children and they begin to accumulate theirs :)!

Moving gives us a whole different perspective, doesn't it?

Seriously, given the fact you're a teacher, I imagine you're also sorting through magnitudes of gifts/papers/notes/whatever your 'kids' and their parents have given you. I can't even fathom how challenging that must be.

V.

Oh, P.S. 'Toy Story' is one of my all time favorites, so I'd encourage you to keep the Slinky and consider throwing out anything else from 'exes' that doesn't even remotely resemble a toy--after all, who are you and what is it you do? If you're like me, and I think you are, you play w/the kids who land on your doorstep and find a way to incorporate learning w/fun.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 8:07am

I too have a tendancy to gather things from exes.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 11:36am

I just moved, and I threw out all the pictures I had of my ex that I was with for four years.

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 11:45am

You are definitely not alone. There is one ex that I didn't keep anything from. Not from anger but a total lack of caring anymore. But I do have cards and little notes that were sweet as well as ticket stubs, wine corks, photos (I am huge into photos and my entry hall is filled with them), and other various memorabilia from the 2 that really meant something to me. I also have a journal devoted to all of my memories of the one that I loved most. I am glad that I wrote them down at the break-up because now I can read it and recall some wonderful moments that wouldn't have made it had I not written them down.

I am not at all obsessive about this stuff, but every now and then I like to just remember. When I read my journal or touch the things that we shared together, it's like I can pull the good memories out of tissue and turn them over in my hands carefully and with great respect. I enjoy the combination of pleasure and melancholy that these things inspire in me.

I also have every letter that my grandmother wrote to me in college and I am glad because she passed away not long after I graduated.

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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:46pm

Intimate photo?

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 12:54pm

Ok...here is just a few.


I have 3 2$ bills in my wallet that my dad gave me.

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Mon, 07-04-2005 - 8:22am
I'm not at all sentimental. Of all my past romantic interests (none were bfs because none wanted to date me), I threw it all away. I destroyed most of the pictures of myself from high school because for me, life didn't start until 18 (issues). Once a person is ejected from my life or ejects themselves from my life, I no longer want anything to do with them and with them goes any reminder of them.
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Registered: 11-22-2004
Mon, 07-04-2005 - 8:27am
Although I'm not just like that with things from friends or guys, but in general. When I clean my bedroom I'll give away a garbage bag full of clothes and a throw out a lot of things that just clutter up the space or have no useful purpose. I don't keep cards people give me because again they serve no real purpose. I'm very minimalist and don't need a lot of frivelous momentos around.
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Mon, 07-04-2005 - 9:05pm

Hmmm. this is all funny to me because i can not relate to this.
I have had ex boyfriends and have not received many things.
I am really unfortunate in life and really feel I've been taken advantaged of.
I have emailed 3 ex boyfriends and I don't know why. They replied as if it was nothing. I really feel like I was nothing to all of them.
So I can't understand the sentimental value of exes. Then I thought...should I?

I do wish I had one of those exes as actual boyfriends....then I wouldn't have a string of jerks.
I hate to be the negative one, and I am bitter for many things in life, but I think all those little things/memories should have been kept alive in one solid, beautiful relationship.
I would not keep anything. I would go foward because that one and only guy will not have to leave you reminders, but give him himself to you.

Stacy

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Mon, 07-04-2005 - 10:47pm

Part of the reason why I keep things is because they remind me of where I've come.

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